Is cyber sex considered cheating? so what does sex, actually entail?
I was up all night speaking with a special lady- you know who you are. she's witty, responsive and tres, tres sexy... have i cheated on my gf?
gf and i, have this open relationship (she was born and raised in france). we both have other women in our lives, and of course its all done safely, last night as the first time that i felt guilty this arrangement. what does that mean? am i morally wrong? Last night was fantastic experience... and i probably would do it again.
ermmm, would you want to know if your partner did a similar thing?
thank you
2006-10-04 01:23:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I thin G. has hit the nail on the head. as i said- i dont usually feel guilty, but this girl is hot...
2006-10-04 01:31:06 · update #1
yohan: i have not said that i enjoy having an open relationship. she wants an open relationship- and i want her to be happy.
but this lady, makes me question my relationship with the other girl. yeah she has my heart and am starting to realise that she is taking advantage of me. this other girl is cool- i like her a lot.
ps. am not desperate. and i can assure you she is no teenager...
pss. the other day, i said that i snogged my gf face of because i wnted her to know that i will miss her... she is in france now, seeing her gf...
i dont want to live like that anymore...
2006-10-04 04:41:15 · update #2
Go for it dammit---she wants you!!!
2006-10-04 07:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by jassee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Me and my partner have an open relationship and it is a long distance one. We opened our relationship and it made us stronger as a unit. We have the best communication. And cyber sex is the least of our worries. I have cybered with a guy and he is an imaginative lover I would love to meet him in real life and if I did I could make love to him and he to me and I would still be OK with my partner because nothing is going to break this bond. My heart is big enough to handle two or even three lovers and still belong to Brek. His is the same.
I do not think your partnership may be strong enough if you are feeling guilty over cyber. I mean what is an open relationship to you if it is not permission to love other people but still be committed to the first person.
2006-10-04 10:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummmm! That question is hitting me very close to home, too close. If you are who I think you are we need to have a friendly chat. Especially if you were drinking wine last night. You know how to IM me.
To ans. your question: An open relationship is what it means open but if you feel you are cheating on your girl friend then you might want to change the way you & your partner are doing things. My guess is you love your girl friend enough not to want to share her go with your heart sugar, go with your heart.
If my partner had cyber-sex I wouldn't want to know about it. I would feel I was letting her down in some ways.
I also agree with "G"
2006-10-04 08:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is ONLY my opinion. If there is an orgasm involved I would say yes...it's cheating. If you did this behind your girlfriend's back without her knowing...yes...I feel it's ethically wrong. I agree with G totally. I don't think open relationships work. If you can't get 100% satisfaction in your current relationship emotionally and sexually then WHY are you with that person at all? My girlfriend and I are 100% monogomous. There is no open there to experiment with anyone else. I can tell you now that I do'nt take kindly to sharing....especially sharing my soul mate!!!!
2006-10-04 09:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh no adults should never do that. just watch porn, at least then you're not cheating. cyber sex is for desperate teenagers. i did it when i was a teenager because it was funny at the time; knowing that adults where having sexual conversations with a teenager
wait a minute.....weren't you the one saying you were over-joyed to see your girlfriend the other day but now you're cheating and saying you love having an open relationship? why have a partner if you don't want to be monogomous?
2006-10-04 09:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Open relationships aren't real relationships so it shouldn't matter to u if its cheating or not! U've nothing to loose! If my partner did that then the relationship would be over, and vise vearsa. We love each other in every way so we'd never treat each other with such disrespect. Both of u will never last as a couple if u go on like h**ny animals.
2006-10-04 13:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by jessie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure why you felt guilty, except unless you have met this person(or seen them in some form) or talked to them on the phone, exactly how do you know who or what you were having cyber sex with?
You have an open relationship with your g/f, I suggest you talk to her about it and your reaction to it and see what she thinks.
2006-10-04 08:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is cheating on an emotional and trust level which is just as bad as actual in some important respects but does no harm if you do not get caught or do not take it any further. it is dangerous and may lead to actual physical cheating so it is not a good thing to indulge in.
if my spouse was doing this I would NOT want to know as it would hurt so bad. keep your silence. it is weak to confess this kind of stuff because it shifts the burden of bad feelings on to the spouse. suffer the guilt if you must do it but keep it secret.
2006-10-04 08:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you have some unresolved issues depending on the openness of your relationship if you felt guilty. i personally don't think open relationships work that great but thats me. what i am sensing is you found someone you might be hotter for than your girlfriend? thats a risk you take in having open relationships.
2006-10-04 08:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That's considered cheating. that's going outside of your relationship with your gf for a form of sexual gratification with another person.
Do you think your gf would get upset if she knew you cybered online?
2006-10-04 08:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have answered your own question lippy chuk...you don't want to live like that anymore.
as for cyber, if it is between two consenting single adults making an informed choice, i think it is just a bit of fun, and unlike a lot of porn, is not really exploitative.
2006-10-04 17:02:06 · answer #11 · answered by swot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋