any one lonely in there marrige?

Question

iv been married for six years it was the biggest mistake of my life we have nothing in common. i wont to move out but cant afford a place on my own. sex is non existant an i miss it we dont even talk to each other. should i have an affair ?

Answer 1

Sounds like my marriage....I'm not brave enough to stray but good luck to you if you do!

Answer 2

Hi, a affair wont change things in your marriage and is not guarenteed to give you happiness. May bring you some happiness for a while but can also bring alot of baggage with it and complications. Finding someone in hope that you may then have somewhere to go with them also not a good idea, not that am saying you would do that.
I was in 9 year marriage in similar circumstances, know how it feels. Its possible to be in a room with 100 ppl and still feel lonely.
All am saying is think about all angles and reprocussions before going into that. Hope you find happiness.

Mail me if you want to talk.

Answer 3

Im in the same boat as you huni, cant afford to move out by myself. Dont want to be here either. If you feel like talking some more then email me and i'll try and help. Dont have an affair you'll only feel crap about yourself. Good friends and loads of things to do are a great help though. x

Answer 4

Sounds like you are really lonely and wanting some excitement in your life which is completely understandable. 6 years is a long time to be with someone and feel this way.

Honesty is always the best way to go. It can be so nerve racking to be completely open and upfront with ppl but its definitely worth it in the long run. Get clear about what you really want and speak to you husband before you do something you could potentially regret.

I wish you the best of luck x

Answer 5

You must have had something in the past otherwise WHY get married.
As we dont know the whole story i would say forget the cheating and see a marriage councillor .
is there children ,beatings,another women its impossible to help because we dont know the reasons. so try and save your marriage but talk first before you act dont ask us to validify your affair with someone else two wrongs dont make it right.
all the bestxx

Answer 6

Do not have an affair. It'll only make matters worse and he'll wind up taking everything! Just get out the old fashioned way and leave.

Answer 7

In similar situation, been married 21 years and have decided to have my own life going out with my mates and having a good time.
Try it
Good luck

Answer 8

6 years lucky you ! and dont listen to people that say leave, divorce, get help, its not as easy as that.

Once the "in love" feelings have gone its only respect thats left.
I dont have an answer for you only you can decide, all the best. E-mail me if you like sometimes its nice to talk with someone you dont know, gives you a different outlook on things.

Answer 9

if i were you , i would find a friend and ask to stay with them for a while , till u can get the funds for a place,and it is hard to talk to anyone that you don't have any thing in common with. on the affair thing, buddy your on your own, but in my way of thinking if you do , then she has you where she wants you , by the ba--s.and she will get what she wants in the end.

Answer 10

YOU BETTER TALK TO UR HUSBAND ABOUT THAT. UR MARRIED AND UR SUPPOSED TO SOLVE PROBLEMS TOGETHER AS A TEAM. IF THAT DOESN'T HELP-JUST SEPARATE AND GO ON WITH UR LIFE. EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY AND SEEK HAPPINESS!!!A LOVELESS MARRIAGE IS ONE OF THE WORST SITUATION U CAN BE IN. MAYBE DIVORSE IS THE BEST SOLUTION, NOT AN AFFAIR. U HAVE TO DO MAJOR CHANGES IF BOTH OF U DON'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING TO SAVE THIS RELATIONSHIP.

Answer 11

iam reading your question and have seen people inviting you to chat, that is nonsense, remember these are strangers and will never have your interest at heart.
my humble advice to you is to go to your church if you are a member of one, or with your family or friends for a mean time or go to your county office, iam sure they should have some help for women like you.even you can innitiate a seperation proceeding while you are still there, some does not cause much, the county should be the best place for assistance. they have all the resouces you need. go there and dont be afraid to ask for help.having affair will not be in your own interest for now
and remember, it is your life and happinses, you have to do all that you can to safegaurd it
again,all these measuers are to be concedered if after you might have called him, yes call him, try to calm him down, iam sure he must have like you ones, call a meeting with his family with him present and explain to him how you feel about everything. it is not going to be easy but it will worth it, invite people that he listen to and have a meeting with him, remember this is not to be confrontational, don`t start shouting, quietly explain to everybody your concern and let him explain his motive for what he is doing to you.remember guys like to feel wanted or needed,don`t listed to people that will tell you, to tell him to hell with him. all iam telling you is for now you dont have to burn your bridges, give yourself time to organise yourself and by that time you maybe in a position to take care of yourself if the worst can happen. if you dont have a job start looking for one immidiately. again your county should have all the resources to help you. go and ask for all the help you need. just buy time and until you eventually move out if all these move fails, dont have an affair, because that might not be to your advantage in a devorce cout proceeding.whatever that made him to marry you is still there use it,if you miss sex according to you, that means you are still attractive, seduce him. iam a guy, and like i said before. guys like to feel wanted, remember you are only buying time for yourself if you really believe that he is not the one for you
i wish you the best and may God be with you