I was watching tv about domestic violence?

Question

and some of the women described the way they are treated.
I was alway's told it was wrong to hit a woman and I'm sure most males were told the same thing.
So why do these cowards do it ????

I am proud to say that I have never or would never raise my voice let alone my fists at a woman.

Answer 1

hey there, a serious question...i grew up in a home enviroment where both my dad and then my stepdad were both extremely violent mainly towards my mother but occasionally toward me too. My dad left when i was very small so i remember mostly about my stepdad...as a child i witnessed everything from him punching my mother in the face to running us off the road in the car to pouring boiling liquid on her and battering down the door of the bathroom i was hiding in after throwing me across the room...i could go on and on...i dont know why they do it. Sometimes frustration and an inability to express themselves,obviously pent up rage and aggression sometimes there are other problems and sometimes its just about control and making people afraid enough to do what you want usually as you lack control in yourself...as a child i learned to fight my father to help my mother,get my younger sister out of the house or hidden and so on. I married a man who was violent on occasion and i left him after i realised that he would never have control over that...i i think that they get away with too much and the reason for this is that very often police are reliant on the victim to press charges and more often than not they wont as they are afraid...other people should be able to bring charges in domestic violence situations and maybe when it isn't seen to be tolerated things will change a little...my mother divorced my stepdad eventually but for the last number of years has been living with a man who kept her prisoner,broke her ribs and rebroke them to keep her from being able to go out etc...she lives abroad so its easy for him and hard for us as her family...good question and although i say well done for never hitting a woman...i shouldn't have to,that SHOULD be the norm...;0)

Answer 2

Many times alcohol is involved, but not always. I have 1 front tooth knocked out and replaced. I have a 1 inch scar across my right cheek from being punched in the face and I have a 3 inch scar on my left leg from having a real heavy oak chair thrown at me which required 4 stitches and an xr to make sure my leg wasnt broken and guess what? He told me I made him do it. All of this from an abuser. I am happily single now and really surprised I managed to live thru it all. Never again! I am afraid I would snap and do some serious damage if someone tried to beat on me again.

Answer 3

The women are codependents. Both are gaining something from this terrible type of relationship. When the women stop letting men hit, we will have less men hitting. But true, the men should be MEN in the first place and never hit.

Glad for you. Never even raise your voice? Wow. What if she did something really dangerous? Wouldn't you call out to her to get her attention? (Just curious.)

Answer 4

Violence in course of adult adult males is a criminal offense and violence in course of girls is a criminal offense. If i spotted all of us being overwhelmed up in the line i'd be only as better probable to step in and have a glance at to offer up it if a woman became hitting someone or a guy became once hitting a woman. kin violence isn't justice as human beings do not prefer to be dealt with like that. Xxx xx x

Answer 5

Well done you!
I have been in 2 violent relationships and now (years on) I realise they do it because they feel the woman is superior to them and "uncontrolable" ie she is pretty, intelligent, popular etc and they dont like this because that means they cannot control her or keep her all to themselves this frustrates them and they set about destroying her
I am pleased to say I am now in a very happy equal relationship with a wonderful guy yes we bicker now and then and he does get frustrated with lifes elements etc but I know he would never ever raise a hand to me

Answer 6

My dad used to hit me and my mum sat back and let him do it, as she was too busy finding out what was at the bottom of her vodka bottle. People strike out because they had parents hit them, isn't that what they say? You may think I am a hardfaced *****, but I never will forgive my dad for beating me and my mum for not protecting me but I can promise myself that I will NEVER hit my kids and will bring them up to respect people and be decent human beings. I have managed to come out ok and 'broke the chain' so to speak so there is no excuse for beating another human being just because it happened to you. Good on you for being so decent. My finace is sweet, loving and he does get annoyed but would never hit me. If i can walk away and it makes me a better human being, so can others. x

Answer 7

It is sad that some men and women revert to violence to get their needs met. They feel inferior and it is their way of keeping control. Lots of them do not even feel remorse afterwards. Some have come from an abusive family so it is learnt behaviour but that is not an excuse because lots of people who have seen abuse do not become abusers.

Answer 8

Your right brother. These are the want to be "men" who can't handle being a real "man", and take all the frustrations out on a woman or weaker person. You will never have to worry about these "Punks" because they won't fight real men!

Answer 9

They do it because it gives them a sense of power. They also do it because they are weak, have low self esteem and it makes them feel strong. I know, I suffered abuse from my ex-husband, physical, emotional and psychological because he felt inadequate as I had a good job and a Degree. He was a bully and bullies do the same thing for the same reasons.

Answer 10

It's about control. Often these people cannot express themselves as well as their partner verbally, meaning the only way to win an argument is with their fists.