Recently I have noticed more and more people going through tough times, but nobody seems to realize what the real problems are. It would be wonderful if people will just open up and start talking about it, but I need to know how other people feel about it or what they think about opening up? I am a writer and motivational trainer, and would love to hear your opinions! Thank you Tinabel B
2006-10-04 00:43:34 · 15 answers · asked by Tinabel B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reason why more people seem down in the dumps is problaby because they are. The reason for this is many fold.
- Society has made us more insular, especially those of us that live in the city. We go to work come home have supper then sit in front of the TV or the PC. Keep in mind that many of the people that will answer you question here on Yahoo Answers are more sociable, intelligent and sensitive than the nom.
-The seemingly unstoppable freight train we call consumerism. We are constantly bombarded by new and improved stuff. Everyone needs to have a big house in the suburbs, a swimming pool two cars, a TV and sound system in everyone room and of course they all have to surpass the Jones'.
-9-11 this has changed the western world for ever. Gone is collective peace of mind. Fear is always at the fore-front. Hardly a newscast goes by without the word terror being mentioned. Like it or not this will eat away at a person and the insularity I mentioned earlier will only serve to amplify this feeling.
-the rise of pornography. More and more woman are being objectified and youngmen's vision of sexuality is being perverted from spending so much time of the internet comsuming that crap. I'm no saint I consume some as well at times but I know that the way sex is portrayed in those films is an illusion most women will not perform the way a pornstar does and that's fine by me. But it's this distinction that is lost.
These are just three malaisse I think think of off the top of my head. There's also poor diet, over dependence on pharmacutical, technological progress (which was supposed to usher an age of leisure but has enslved us.
Anyway I could go on and on.
2006-10-04 01:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, it helps to talk things through, because just doing that solves half the problem. I do that sometimes to friends & family but I always feel that they don't really understand what Im going through so I just bottle it all up & pretend Im fine. At times my chest feels like bursting open with these emotions so I just ink everything in my little diary. Are you really a motivational trainer? I cauld use some motivation right now, my life is such a mess Im constantly tired < cauld you mail me?>
2006-10-04 00:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Luvy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have any problem opening up, I have trouble finding somone who will take the time to really listen, and actually give a dam about what I am saying. and i think you will find that is the case with most people. nobody wants to hear anyones problems these day, they have enough of there own. and even if you do find the real problem I find most of the time it takes money to fix it and whos got any spare of that these days.
2006-10-04 00:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No man is an island....Everybody needs someone to talk with not only about depressing issues but also about happy times.
Letting out / ventilating pent up emotions or bottled up feelings is cathartic and healthy to one's being once it is talked about and shared. Listening by love ones or support group and receiving advice gives clarity to confusion when one is depressed. When one begins to talk about issues, one is ready to confront the problem and ready to deal with it. On some severe cases though, a professional is needed to facilitate and ensure the "opening up" is on the right track and would truly serve its beneficial purpose.
2006-10-04 02:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True people don't talk like they use to.I love being there for my friends that need to talk it out. Sometimes just to let it out helps . I know that 1st hand.I will say some of the things that are going on bad in their life are things that they created& stayed in over & over but that is not true in all situations. One of the reasons I don't see people talking things out alot is the thoughts placed out there that everyone is out to get me or tell my business . I got to be strong & handle it myself.Keeping that image that I don't take no mess or front ,that is!Well I love having friends to just listen & give advice so those who hold it in ....Good Luck!
2006-10-04 00:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that one needs an absolute trusted confidante, someone whos is disarming and trust worthy. Mostly, I have found I can open up about sad things that I am encountering only after my friend opens up and breaks down the wall of protection that he has placed around him to protect his feelings. When I see a person unconditionally opening up and trusting me when discussing their issues, it is easy for me to open up.
It is important to talk about the sad things in one's life, this is how I do it.
2006-10-04 00:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people need someone to talk to. They need someone that will listen and not judge and tell them what to or not to do.
Most of the time people need to hear themselves say things out loud. Listening to yourself is more help than most anything others can say.
A good listener is rare and very important to people that need to talk.
2006-10-04 01:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discussing depressive issues with someone really helps to mitigate the depressive situation. The major problem with this technique is the inability of the 'helper' to keep the discussion to himself/herself. Another problem is getting the right person to share those depressing issues. Some 'helper' may even aggravate the situation. One must thread cautiously when one want to discuss depressive issues.
2006-10-04 00:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would share my thoughts with my spouse, however I would also get opinion from various close friends when I face problem that I need to deal with. It is always better to hear more opinion than to decide on one.
2006-10-04 00:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by vosy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weve turned into a secretive society. domestic relations, politics, religion, education, and employment just to name a few...society has accepted the "lets keep this between me and you" for so long it has become the norm. the reason people dont open up is for fear of bodily harm, being sued, or ostracized. who do they open up to? everyday the news highlight teachers, priests, and doctors that have crossed that line with students, alter boys and patients.
2006-10-04 01:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋