on a night out with my husband my brother in law tried it on with me. should i tell my hubby??? my husband and his brother are really close and i would hate for them to fall out but i now feel uncomfortable around brother in law and husband will wonder why... what shall i do??
2006-10-04 00:21:31 · 33 answers · asked by lp261084 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In a quiet moment when hubby is not around, make it plain to the brother in law that you are not interested in him and never will be as you are in love and married to his brother. Then avoid all situations where you and he would be alone. I would do it face-to-face rather than over the phone, text, e-mail or letter as all of the other methods have a chance to come back to haunt you later.
If he carries on, threaten to tell your hubby yourself what's going on. If they are as close as you say, this will probably be enough to scare him off.
2006-10-04 00:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should tell him because what if your brother in law continues to do this and you really get tired of it at one point and can't take it anymore??? You will then feel like it's time to tell your husband at that point. What if your husband saw this on his own??? I know this is your husband's brother and they are close, but if he was so much of a brother he wouldn't be doing this behind his brother's back. If your husband ever found out that his brother was trying to hit on you he would be angry at you as well because you didn't speak up and tell him about it. He would then question what you were doing all that time. Good luck with this and I hope things work out.
2006-10-04 00:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one. as your brother is so close to his brother. I would avoid the other brother like the plague. but i think your husband will think somethings up eventually cause you can only make so many excuses to not go over to his house or be in the same room with him.
It would devistate your husband to know his own brother tryed to do that to his own flesh and blood of a brother. I would speak with the brother in law privately and tell him if he should ever try this again you will have no choice but to tell your husband . and make it perfectly clear you won't have any of that you love his brother ( your husband) normally any other guy yeah go to your husband but this would crush your husband heart to know his own brother tryed to get with you. so either way your husband would lose here. either a loss of a brother he once was very close to and won't be able to see cause of this. and then though he has you. he'll still miss his brother . So either way your husband will feel lousy.
So see if you can handle this on your own so your husband doesn't have to make this terrible decison.
And if the brother doesn't get it and trys again then you MUST tell your husband.
2006-10-04 01:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would tell after all you married your husband and although nothing actually happened who's to say he will back of next time. part of your vowels you made to each other where to be honest and faithful. if you don`t tell him and he suspects he might thing something did happen between you and his brother therefore causing doubts for him. tell him that you fell uncomfortable around his brother and you don`t want to be left alone with him. any decent husband will ask why and all you say is.... its not easy for me to tell you this as he is your brother but im your wife and the other night when we were out he tryed it on with me. tell him as it was he will either respect you for being honest or say his brother wouldn`t do such a thing, in which case stay out of the brother-in-laws way.
2006-10-04 02:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This takes me back, my brother inlaw tried it on with me when i was first married to my husband. At the time i didnt tell my husband, I did give my brother in law a piece of my mind though at the time. Over the years he would periodically try it on and i always told him to piss off, Eventually i got fed up with it and said right your on lets go. He turned a shade of pale, then burst out laughing as he realised i was taking the piss. He knew i would never get it on with him thats why he used to do it just to get a reaction. My husband and i have been together 25 years and it wasnt until recently i told him and you know what he said? " why the randy wee sod" and then "did you". Thats when i clouted him. My husband gets on really well with his brother and so do i we have great nights out together. Now i just slag him about trying it on, and even on a few occasions ive said to him "How about it then eh" he always declines. I suppose it all depends on how you think your husband would react if you told him. You could try turning the tables on him, like i did, but would he decline!!!!
2006-10-04 10:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by jakeybird2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. Next time he tries anything just say in a loud voice "Sure! I'll just let (your husband) know I'll be busy for the next two minutes!" and walk out the room to go get your husband - don't say anything to your husband, just enjoy the look of horror on your scumbag-in-law's face!
Now that you have a plan, you will almost be willing him to do it again and hopefully not feel too anxious the next time you're in his company. Good luck!
2006-10-04 07:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him girl! He might be mad at first(not at you) but if you tell him then he'll know who he can trust in the whole awkward situation. If he finds out from someone else or even his brother he'll not trust you or him. I tell my husband everything that makes me feel uncomfortable. I would never do anything to hurt him so another guy trying to hit on me (especially his brother) would get told to him by me first right away. His trust in me means the world to me and nobody will come in and ruin that for me. I love him too much. Good luck girl....and tell that man!
2006-10-04 00:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my case i tell my husband everything and he knows i would never lie about something as serious as that.. so i would tell him..
My suggestion to u , is to tell your husband in a manner that doesnt make him go on the defensive, tell him that his brother makes u feel uncomfortable, and when he wants to know why tell him what happened..
2006-10-04 00:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely tell my hubby. Like you said, he will notice the awkwardness between you two and will ask what's going on. If he finds out on his own, he will likely be p*ssed that you didn't tell him first. Then it could start a problem with him wondering what else you ain't telling him. So be straight with him. The two of them can work it out between themselves. You didn't create this problem, your brother-in-law did.
2006-10-04 00:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the husband and let them fight it out. Husband is there to protect you. He should be on your side not the brothers.
2006-10-04 04:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋