2006-10-04 00:14:34 · 17 answers · asked by beci 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i know its hard but no great mate would do that. she should be there to support you.
2006-10-04 00:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by caz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you send her an email saying you respect her decision to move on but would she be honest enough to say why she made that decision. This way, if it is something you have done, you can correct it and not make the same mistake again with your new bes friend. If it is something that was out of your control you can relax in the knowledge that it was just a parting of the ways and you have just grown apart. It happens all the time to lots of people and its part of growing up.
I would also strongly recommend getting some help from a doctor who could recommend a good therapist to help with why you are bulimic and also to talk abot your feelings of losing your best mate.
I know it feels bad at the moment, but it won't feel like this forever and when the time comes and you meet someone new and exciting you will be pleased this happened because if it hadn't you wouldn't have all the new and exciting experiences you are about to have.
Its not something you can control, you have to learn that life is what happens in between our plans and sometimes we just have to go with the flow. Enjoy the challenge and look at it as an opportunity to start afresh!
2006-10-04 07:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, the helpful bit:
The first thing to do is get help for your bulimia. It's a dangerous condition which can lead to long term health problems. Get that sorted before you even start to worry about someone who obviously wasn't as good friend as you thought. Your well being should be your priority.
Now the nagging:
You're probably very young judging by your use of that dreadful 'text speak' which there is no need to use here as you have plenty of room to write the words out in full! So, as a youngster you really need to learn to cope with stuff like this! It's all part of growing up! Get over it, and get on! Don't let this friend see that she's got to you. Hold your head high, life's too short! (And it'll be even shorter if you don't start eating properly!)
2006-10-04 08:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not worth getting upset about, if she was a true friend she wouldn't do that to you.i know its not nice how your feeling but don't let her know it upsets you, as for being bulimic well what can i say but get help, and if you are bulimic i don't think you would be telling people on here do you. good luck
2006-10-04 08:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by jackie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bulimic does you no justice.the care of another even in the most plotonic of situations is devastating,people that do not take care of themselves cannot exude a positive influence over others,you have to be kind to yourself first,dood luck
2006-10-04 07:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear ditched mate
you invested your core needs in your mate and now you are feeling the void of your emptiness
we all have the same core needs and fill them in many ways...be careful not to rely on just one mate to feed them
here they are..and filling them ALWAYS starts with you feeding them yourself FIRST
to be LOVED for who you really are.
to be ACCEPTED for all you do and who you really are
To add value to others life to bring you WORTH
To be desired
touch...and be touched...human touch is a must.... some people do substitute with pets.
feed your core needs and you will feel better.
You see it as you are missing her...but it's what you got from her that is really missing.
Fill your voids and never rely on just one person to feed them ever again!!
2006-10-04 07:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she must have ditched you for a reason. You'll have to work that out for yourself and then make it up to her, if its forgivable. Dealing with your bulimia should be your first priority though. Check out the website below.
2006-10-04 07:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else you dont need friends like that if they are just going to leave you in your hour of need...!
2006-10-04 07:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay positive, and find support to help you through it.
2006-10-04 07:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kind lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your great mate ditches you there must be a reason on her part ,,have talk her about it?
2006-10-04 07:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THAT SHELL THAT MADE YOU BELIEVE THAT 'YOU HAD A GREAT BEST MATE'
SHE WASN'T THAT IS CLEAR.
GET ON WITH LIFE & LEARN FORM THIS MISTAKE.
2006-10-04 07:18:01 · answer #11 · answered by Sarang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋