I'm afriad to come out about my sexuality becuase I'm not entirely sure that I'm gay or striaght. I'm afriad if I tell my family or friends they would look at me differently.
2006-10-04 00:11:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honey, people who "come out" come out after a lifetime of hiding. They make the decision to accept themselves for who they are, and to deal with the negative repurcussions society imposes. You can't come out because you don't know who you are yet. And that's ok.
You're at the beginning of the path that leads you to know yourself and who you are becoming. You are the butterfly struggling to come out of the cocoon. You are a caring family member and an aware young woman. Do take time to let yourself evolve. There are a lot of issues to deal with at your place in the journey of Life.
As far as romantic relationships go, your best option will be to develop skills that attract a responsible partner. You want someone who will treat you with respect. Whom you can trust. Otherwise you are going to get sucked into all the drama and crisis bad relationships bring. Bad relationships happen when one of the partners, or both, have underdeveloped decision making skills. All they end up showing their partner is selfishness, which is the indicator for childishness, not maturity. Your age group can be notorious bad decision makers because making decisions is a skill that is learned.
Give your future partner someone with qualities he/she can admire. Pull good grades, make responsible decisions ( that is, be where you are supposed to be, be home when you say you are going to be home, etc...), learn to deal with your responsibilities without requiring that everyone else tell you what you are supposed to be doing. Take steps to become independent. You will be Teaching people who know you about who you will be as a young adult. It's hard to do if you're still learning.
Your future partner will appear to be a very close friend at first. They will indicate that they are happy when you are happy, and that they have the stuff it takes to support you when times are tough. You will trust their advice because they are developing good decision making skills. And you'll be crazy over their good attributes.
Enough to look past their faults and love them for the good things you see. No one is perfect.
(My guy is the nicest man, and he acts on his good impulses. I knew I just loved him when he got up early for work in the winter every day to clear the little old couple next door's car from snow and ice. Yeouwzers!! Gotta love him.!!!)
As far as your mom is concerned, do encourage her to see a doctor, even if it is just to ease your mind. Don't do to her the things you hate...like pick and pick and harrass her.Treat her decision with respect. And do make the request again if you feel th need...respectlfully. You're right, she's probably really scared. Tell her you'll be there for her always, and that you love her and want her to be happy and healthy.
Give yourself the gift of time. All things come. It is inevitable. Prepare yourself for a good life. Seek out your goals and achieve them. You can do it. And always, respectfully, be the Teacher.
2006-10-04 00:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur family, i mean they should love u no matter what, and they aways say that u can come to them with anything, this is nothing bad i mean its just how u are, no one can tell u to be gay or striaght so really u have to find out by ur self but talk to ur family bout it, im sure one of them went tho the samething.
2006-10-04 00:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by countryman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sis had the same problem she didnt know what to do she waited for yrs to tell any one but once she did she said it felt like a weight had been lifted her mates and her family dont look at her any different we all still love her the same you need to tell your friends and family when your ready and if your mates do treat you differently then they are not your mate they should like you for who you are not what you are! i hope this has made some sense, please feel free to im me if you want to chat
2006-10-04 00:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by mummyzgall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them until you know for sure. You would know for sure if you were, so just start dating guys and then go from there. You are a girl aren't you?
2006-10-04 00:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family looks at you weird it's ok because they are family. If your friends stop liking you you were never they're friend. be true to yourself.
2006-10-04 00:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by carebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell them anything.
Just experiment and figure out what you like. You sound like you may be bi-curious.... which most people are at one time or another.
2006-10-04 00:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consult Doctor privately without any shame.Be happy ,tension free
2006-10-04 00:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by niranjaninamdar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE ALL THE REASONS TO YOURSELF AND IT'S ONLY YOU AND YOU HEART THAT KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM BUT I ADVISE YOU TO CONSULT CHURCH LEADER FOR ADVISE AND COUNSELING.
2006-10-04 00:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by halicate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i believe what they say, experiment , don't tell anybody first
2006-10-04 00:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋