My partner and I had a rough time and he cheated.
We have sorted everything out now, and are moving forward. I still have "bad" days every now and then regarding the forgetting part.
He is going away on business this weekend, and is sharing a room with another women in the business, I know this women, and I know its strictly business, but I still cant help but feel insecure about it, I know if the cheating didnt happen, then I wouldnt have a care in the world about it.........am I over reacting? or should I feel this way ?
2006-10-03 23:53:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly whether the company has requested that they share or not ............your man out of respect for you should be in his own room.
Given your past relationship situation, again out of respect for you, he should be in his own room.
You are not over reacting, you are brave and considerate for giving this man another chance, now he shold be considerate towards your feelings, and not put you through the "worry" of a weekend like this.
This man should think himself lucky that you forgave him, for cheating, and he should be doing everything inn his power to make sure you feel confident and secure in the relationship.....................he shouldnt be adding to the doubt.
Good luck...........and as I always say, everyone deserves a second chance, but not a third or forth.
Stay strong, and dont let him do this again to you.
2006-10-04 00:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Red Flags! Why would a man and a woman share a room? Is this business trip through a company that they work for? If so I am sorry to say but I don't believe a company would have the opposite sex share a room together. There are too many cases of sexual harrasment and a company would not dare put the opposite sex in the same hotel room. They wouldn't even do this to save money. They would not take that kind of chance of being sued and criminaly liable for the conduct of one or the other employee. It doesn't matter if the company trust both individuals to behave themselves that would never play a factor.
I wish I could believe different but this sounds fishy don't you think? Also, you have every right to be insecure about this. He cheated on you once and although you may have forgiven him you will never forget.
Once a cheater always a cheater. I would say that this statement is 90% true. The other 10% will grow up sooner or later, but more than likely when they do grow up it will be too late. Meaning if I cheat on Bob and I get away with it I will probably do it again and again because I know there are no consquences. Sooner or later Bob will get fed up and leave me. I may learn that what I did was wrong but it will be too late for Bob and I. If I mature and I meet someone else then perhaps I won't be a cheater. Some grow up and some don't.
Keep your guard up and I hope that I am wrong but it sure does sound fishy to me.
2006-10-04 07:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would definitely feel the way you do! Isnt there any other guy going on the business trip? And i dont know, but since when are gender of the opposite sex supposed to share a room on a business trip? Apart from that, I think if your partner already cheated but is still with you and you two sorted it out, then there is a very clear reason why he wants to be with you and nobody else! I cant imagine that after what you two have been through he would cheat again. Cant you tell your partner about your feeling and that this weekend u will be left with an insecure feeling?
2006-10-04 07:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No your not over reacting, I would be afraid to, Its really hard to let go of the past, and it will take you a while to let that go. It all depends on if he learnt his lesson. You should be able to tell if he cheated just by the look in his eyes when he comes home. Just mention something to him but nothin to much because you dont want him getting pissed at you. Just let him know that you are concerned. Then hell know consiously that your smarter than he thinks you are. People say once a cheater always a cheater, hats not true. Hopefully hes done with his foolishness. Alot of times people cheat on there partner because they need something new. So give him something new to want to come home to. Good Luck, and if it happens again. Dont keep trying your only going to get hurt worse in the end.
2006-10-04 07:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Jo*~ 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not that you should or shouldn't feel this way is that you do, and most likely will always feel this way. He cheated and that broke the chain of trust. Forget about the forgetting part because you never will forget,it's just human nature....nothing wrong with you at all!
2006-10-04 06:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of a company expecting a male and female to share a room on a business trip. It's the making of sexual harrassment in one way or another, and the company wouldn't risk a lawsuit about it. No, you're not overreacting...chances are he's a sneaky slimeball and you need to dump him. Don't be naive.
2006-10-04 07:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's a business trip, why are they in the same room?
In 31 yrs. of business trips, i never had to share a room with
a lady, unless i brought her in. I'm not saying wake up and smell
the clothing, your an adult, ask question and see who gets
upset.
2006-10-04 07:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by hello67898 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are over reacting... there is no way in Hell a company is going to send two employees of the opposite sex on a business trip and make them share a room...it's ridiculous... shoot even the Army has separate rooms for male and female soldiers... i think your man is full of ****!
2006-10-04 06:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
once a cheater alway a cheater, and you have the right feel the way you do,If he is sharing a room with a co worker and it's a female , cheating time, it's time for you to move on.
2006-10-04 06:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are a brave lady to forgive him and it is totally understandable for you to have feelings like that now and again. Secondly, why is he sharing a room? That is completely unprofessional given they are different sexes and also colleagues. Their employer should be providing separate rooms. You are not overreacting, lets be honest it is a far too familiar a set up for colleagues to be in.
2006-10-04 06:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by rondavous 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋