2006-10-03 23:46:52 · 16 answers · asked by K asi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you still love the person and want to stay married...try to work it out through couples counseling...maybe the lack of attraction is due to things other than physical and you can work through it together...
Or if you just want an easy out... tell/him or her, then let them move on w/their lives...'cause who wants some jack *** around that is so superficial anyway!
2006-10-03 23:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can depend on your circumstances. You say you are not physically attracted to your spouse. Is there still an attraction to her emotionally or are you trying to say you are no longer in love with your spouse? How long have you been married. Is there anyway you think you wuld be attracted to your spouse again? Do you want to leave your spouse? Are you attracted to someone else? there is a lot of information you are leaving out here.
2006-10-03 23:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have a heart, u dont.... when u love someone, u dont intentionally hurt their feelings, and when u really love someone then ur love for them on the inside makes them beautiful on the outside.. and if ur only it in it for the outter looks, your marriage is headed for divorce.. because everyone gets older, and u cant defy age, even with plastic surgery it only lasts so long.. everyone gets older.. its a part of life, and if u cant love ur spouse on the inside.. then u mine as well divorce them cause they deserve someone Mature, and that owns up to their vows.. not someone that is superficial.. now.. if u do love them..
Now u didnt specify what about their appearance makes u not physically attractive to you, so im just going to guess that its a weight issue since thats usually the reason..
If u want this to work, but wish they would take better care of themselves, then instead of hurting their feelings..take the higher road, and start asking them to do things with u that would get them to excercise .. something as simple as going for a walk, .. let them know that u want to get in shape and that u could really use someone to help push you, and ask if they will do it with u cause u feel u'll give up if u dont have a partner.. that way the focus is on you and not them.. so that they dont feel bad about themselves, yet they are getting the excercise they need, eatting better.. because your on a better diet.. and guess what, SEX is great cardio.. so start having sex more lol..
All u will achieve by telling them the truth.. is hurting their feelings, making them become very insecure and jealous, and cause depression, and depression causes people to eat more .. so if u want them to lose weight.. then the best thing u can do is to keep a upbeat possitive spin and compliment constantly even if its false fladdery , when someone feels they are achieving something they will aspire to keep going, if they are constantly told negative things, they will only become self concious and lack self esteem..
2006-10-04 00:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad. Do you even love them emotionally anymore or did you just get married because it was purely sexual relationship? If you never really loved your spouse for who they are(not how they make you feel in the sac) then I think it's time you moved on.
2006-10-03 23:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and tell her. Just get it out in the open and move on. Yeah, she will be mad and hate you for awhile, but there is no sense in being unhappy when you can do something about it. Honesty is the best option for you at this point, so just come right out and tell her.
2006-10-03 23:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONOT TAKE A DECISION IMMEDIATELY.
FIRST U THINK WHETHER U R REALLY GOING TO GET AWAY FROM HER?
IF U R SO CERTAIN TELL HER OPENLY I DONT THINK I CAN BE HAPPY WITH U ANYMORE SINCE MY MIND IS NOT AT ALL CONVINCING TO MARRY YOU.
TELL HER "ITS BETTER FOR U TOO SO THAT U NEED NOT SPOIL UR LIFE BY STAYING WITH ME".
2006-10-04 00:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You go to therapy and work on your issues. Remember the vows you took? For better or worse, in sickness and in health, etc....?
2006-10-04 00:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest with them about it and just come right out and tell them to their face.
2006-10-03 23:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Say "I'm an asshole and I didn't really marry you for better or for worse. I think you're hideous." and brace yourself to lose half of your ****.
Jerk off.
2006-10-03 23:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we all age, some not so gracefully. you know, he may feel the same way. pretty cruel thing to say-pretty cruel.
2006-10-04 00:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋