I have this suitor who’s insisting his love for me. I refused him because I am already committed to someone. But he cannot accept the truth that I’m in love with my boyf. One day my boyf and I got a room in an Inn and you know what happened next. On the other day I saw this creature (my suitor) and he’s staring differently at me. I don’t know why he’s looking at me like that. He confronted me and asks me why I did that. He shouted and everyone around us looks at me. He told everybody what I did, he called me $lut and I am very humiliated that time. I never told this to my boyf because I know he could kill this guy. I cannot tell this to my friend because I just want to be discreet when it comes to my sexual life. Can you help me with this situation please? I can’t get away with this guy because he’s my officemate.
2006-10-03 23:17:43 · 13 answers · asked by sweetlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He warned me if i never give him a chance he will tell this to my parents.
2006-10-03 23:19:05 · update #1
omg. Well, he sounds psycho. And is possibly stalking you. As for pressuring you and calling you a $lut plus he's your officemate?? You need to tell your boss bout this. I'm sure you feel uncomfortable at work. You don't have to give details. Just tell boss that he is shouting private information and calling you degrading names. I know in IL there is ZERO TOLORANCE for this in the workplace by law (yes if all in agreeance joking around and such does occur). But talk to your boss and tell him/her. Your next question will be how to quit your job and if you like this job don't let psycho boy make you quit.
2006-10-03 23:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea how old you are but I suggest you gather some self-respect, dignity & assertiveness and tell this man who is harrassing you that he can say whatever he wants to your parents or anyone else for that matter....and that if he keeps following you - you will have to call the police because in the USA you are a free human being that can go, do, with whoever, whatever you want and his cheap shot of 'i'm going to tell your parents is so immature, he is no man... I am so sorry to here about these troubles you are having, I further suggest you tell your parents everything....you are in a danger zone all day = since this guy is your officemate....you start by telling your parents about him following you. Next, you tell the little boy office mate that you are going to the boss the next time he harasses you. Be firm, stand straight, look him in the eye and just tell him that.....remember, be assertive when expressing your feelings to this man and show him that you have dignity & self-respect. Do not let others tell you things that will make you feel less of yourself. You have nothing to be ashamed of and he is nobody in your life to tell you 'anything'. Please be careful and good luck.
remember, being assertive = being a grown up.
2006-10-04 06:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy (suitor) has crossed the line. Its obvious he has been stalking you for some time. Now add, threats to your parents. Girl this person could be a danger to not only you, but to your parents and boyfriend. He may know where they live also. You need to get a restraining order quick. Inform your boss what is going on now. Don't wait till something worse happens. You need to find another job and get as far away from him as possible. Take matters in your own hands and don't give in to his demands. Enough is enough and he has gone to far as it is. This is no longer a crush, it crossed over to obsession some time ago. Good luck and stay safe.
2006-10-04 06:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very bad situation. This man is stalking you. He also is practicing a form of blackmail. I am not sure how he found out where you went, but he must be following you. I would be very careful with him. See if there are any laws to protect you from a stalker where you live. And look for another job if that is feasible. You need to get away from this creep.
2006-10-04 06:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,better talk to your suitor and persuade his that whether he is ready to have your body but your soul be for someone else?that you be with him but you think to somebody else or your heart beat for your boyf?if he doesn't persuade better tell your boyf or your parents to help and if you really don't want to do it tell the police, he is a bug in your life and for sure he will be more dangerous if you don't persuade him to loose you.
2006-10-04 06:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Neda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old R you? Well I will suggest that you tell him straight that you want to be left alone and that you already love someone else. I will also warn him, if he ever comes near me or my family I will go to the police and make a sexual harass case against him and his irratated ***!!!!!!!!
Enjoy and good luck!!!
2006-10-04 06:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents yourself, explain that this guy is harassing and threatening you before he ever gets a chance to talk to them. Don't ever let anyone threaten you or hold any "dirt" over your head! Tell him to back off or you will file charges against him for sexual harassment and get him fired and let him know that there is nothing he can tell your parents or anyone else that they don't already know so he is making empty threats!
2006-10-04 06:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay girl this guy sounds like a creap i think u should keep ur distance if this dont work find out what he dont like make u'r self u have a intrest,find out what type of people he don't like and around him b that person hopefully he'll want to b nowhere around u by the end of that.
2006-10-04 06:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by asiaabdulkhoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw! try bluffing him that you're going to report him to the authority. if he still doesn't stop stalking, i guess you better report him and get a TRO. better also if you tell your bf about him.
2006-10-04 06:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by bloss_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do that he doesn't love you.he just want to use you and dump you.be very careful.
2006-10-04 06:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by my flame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋