Sitting here wondering about the subject of love, if you love someone and they love you and when you are together its all feels great is there such a thing as too early?
Have a friend who has been seing someone for 2 months, he says he keeps getting the urge to ask his girlfriend to marry him, he aches when she is not around and when he looks at her he just wants her to be his. She says she loves him and that he is her mr right. He puts the question aside though as has been married before and is scared of another relationship going bad and also because doesnt know if its just crazy to want to do that after two months. Also what if she says no, for what ever reason? Would that impact their relationship? Him and his GF have agreed to move in together at xmas time.
Has asked me for advice and i am thinking about it, so am wondering what all your opinion is?
2006-10-03 22:36:47 · 21 answers · asked by windwalker296 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's most important isn't how long two people have been dating but how well they know each other. A couple can go out for months but not discuss substantive issues. Before your friend and his girlfriend decide to take the plunge, they should probably go through premarital counseling since, naturally, premarital counselors are aware of and can offer advice on issues that two starry-eyed lovers can't always see: Do they want kids? How many? What about money matters--who will control the purse strings? Will they both work? How well would the prospective in-laws get along? What about their respective career aspirations? And this is just the tip of the iceberg. Bottom line, if your friend and his girlfriend want to get married, they should take their time, make sure they know each other as well as they think they do and don't rush into marriage.
2006-10-03 23:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Pastor Chad from JesusFreak.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met and married within 6 months and have been married 5 years now so I think it's different for everyone. I have been proposed to at least 6 times with the dating being anywhere from 2 weeks to 4 months and it never felt right... I think you have to decide it is really your heart or head speaking or just certain body parts
2006-10-03 22:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them take their time. Wait a Year or two, because no one can keep the act going that long, so you will get to the real person not the mask. Don't move in together that's how women get control. Make you feel comfortable i.e. make you meals, do your laundry, let you snooze in the afternoon. Yea when you get married and they own half your property that ends real soon. Marriage is like the merger of two companies the one who controls most of the stock is the owner. The Judge always See's the woman as being the major stock owner. So get married then buy a can of spray paint to mark your space on the curb. You will be there.
2006-10-03 22:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by rrxdeadman 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi,
I think you just know.
When i met my man. We had been seeing each other for a couple of weeks and suddenly everything felt strange.
He thought i wanted to brake up with him and i thought he wanted to end it. After a chat we realised things were getting serious and it felt scarey.
14 years later of being together and 9 or those married.
Its not the same for everyone but i personally think the both of you just know. You have to totally trust and give your all which is a big ask in case you get hurt.
Tell your mate good luck and maybe have the same chat as i did. Or lighten up and enjoy her while its sooo good.
2006-10-03 22:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is strange. I knew i loved my gf the first time we met, it's been 4 years and we are getting married on the 7/7/07. No-one can give advice on love because it's a personal thing, but you need to remember, if you have doubt's, or you need someone else's opinion, then your probably not quite ready!
2006-10-03 22:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by moonlight_beast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant love someone if you dont know then and seeing as it takes quite some time to get to know someone Id say two months is way too early as theres probably a million things they do not know about each other yet.
Plus if he asks so soon she may wonder what the rush is, take it as a sign of desperation and things may deteriorate.
2006-10-03 22:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tevez32 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Two months is a very short period of time. He doesn't know her well enough to jump into marriage. He should just take it slow and see how things go for at least 6 months to a year.
2006-10-03 23:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that asking someone to marry you is the most difficult thing in the world but if you love someone that much it does not matter if it takes 2 months or 5 years as long as your happy with one another.
2006-10-03 22:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by clair r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves her and they are meant to be together, whats the rush? As long as they are happy then whats the need to rush into marriage? My advice is to tell your friend to wait a while. If they are moving in together a xmas, and he is desperate to propose, then do it at xmas, or maybe wait til valentines day. Just give it another couple of months at least. Its still very early on in the relationship.
2006-10-03 22:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you will know when it's right.. my friend got married after 2 months.. they've been happily married for 3 years now.. my earliest would be like 6 months..
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2016-04-16 07:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋