2 daughters, 1 boy. I gave my life for them. I got divorced. my family was desintegrated. today they dont want me. they dont call dont allow me to see my 6 grandkids, and I dont see them either in cristhmas. They never give me nothing, any present. But they say they still love me. I have a master degree in education but dont have money because I got depresed sick after a marriage of 21 years with a man who abuse me physical, verbal and mentally. Some times I just would like to end my life.
2006-10-03 22:18:08 · 10 answers · asked by rbeblu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's really sad, and I don't really know what to say except that I actually understand where you're coming from. There are many people in my family who don't speak to each other, and I don't understand why people can treat others the way they do. I've had many family members treat my mom badly, and I think this is completely unacceptable -- it's hurt her a lot.
The best advice I can give you, for what it's worth, is that people who treat others this way are not worth having in your life -- Dr. Laura says that you only miss the person that you wanted them to be.
And please don't kill yourself. If you're struggling with depression, there is hope. If you don't have money, you'd probably qualify for SSI, check that out. And find a doctor and a therapist you're comfortable with, and they should be able to help. Read up on depression, and learn about what you can do to help yourself. There are many ways of dealing with depression. Personally, I recommend this website, but you need to see what works for you: http://www.alternativementalhealth.com
2006-10-03 22:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez you have a masters in education? I could hardly read your question its so full of syntax errors. Well a hundred years from now who is gonna know or care?If you go at your kids with all the suicide stuff they will probably just distance further from you ,after they have you committed.You only get 1 life and this is it make the most of it, leave your mark on this world, focus on the things that make you happy, be selfish, tell your kids if you can't see them at least don't deprive the grandkids of a meaningful relationship with someone who loves them. good luck
2006-10-03 22:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mr.Obvious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to seek help for depression part especially since you are thinking about hurting yourself. I was in abusive relationship for 10 years, it is not easy at 1st because now you have to reprogram yourself to live a life without abuse. You are going to learn why you stayed, but most of all forgive yourself. You are a survive now. So don;t be a victim any more. Keep a journal of how you feel, it really does help to get things out and if you have any friends talk to them.
Also start getting back out go and find job so you are not isolated.
Good luck and God Bless, I will tell you this it does get allot easier.
2006-10-03 22:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by tina j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids aren't into giving me gifts either, but I sure hear about it if I'm late giving them one!
They all have their own lives to lead now. You do feel better at not being around all the abuse you indured, rather you feel like it right now or not.
Once you get over the depression and move on yourself, and start brining in the big bucks, bet you won't beable to get rid of the kids if you tried!!
Ending your life isn't what you need nor is it what they want.
You just have to give yourself time to "find yourself"!!
There is a whole big world out there for you to be exploring so do it with out the kids or not!!
2006-10-03 22:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound lonely and it is scaring you. There is more to life. What you feel now is normal. Join community service, church, be active, try to do something new, write a book, share your life, adopt a child, go out more often.
you could also visit your kids; however, appreciate that they are now independent and may be busy. The kids could be having lessons/school, etc
get a new life. Stop expecting them to do things for you. Instead offer them presents
2006-10-03 22:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by tomnjerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey my heart goes out to you, firstly for having to go through that secondly because you have no family support, you need a big hug and please dont end your life because sometimes the end is the begining maybe your life unfolds from today on in a diffrent ways id see my doctor because those feelings arnt good as you proberly aware,,an also it would be fair to say that
because iam interconnected2 u know an i would feel realy bad that i couldnt help you an my words were misinterpreted.
2006-10-03 22:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by GOOCH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u come to my country Bangladesh, here most of the people may be poor in resources but rich in heart, we love older people much.
2006-10-03 22:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Fahim . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm glad ur kids were educated.
Remember there is no such thing as a double negative.
2006-10-03 22:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Duckie64804 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad children!
2006-10-03 22:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up . your better than that.
2006-10-03 22:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋