How do I keep myself motivated?

Question

Generally, I live a fulfilled life and I am happy. But sometimes, I become depressed for no apparent reason and I find it difficult to do anything. I don't want to work or go to college or see friends. But whilst I feel like this, at the same time I feel worse because I know I should be out there doing something. How can I deal with this and stay motivated and focused on what needs to be done?

Answer 1

First of all stop feeling guilty for feeling you need to be somewhere others want you to be. What matters is if you want to be where others want you to be. That's all that counts.

It is okay to have some time for yourself. Especially when you are feeling bad. Use the time you take to be with yourself to load up fresh energy to face the world again. Pamper yourself, take a long shower, listen to your favourite music, paint, relax. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Treat yourself like you are your best friend.

What could also work (well it works for me) is whenever you feel you don't want to do something, to go ahead and do it anyway. Way out the things why you want to do it, and why you wouldn't do it. For instance tell yourself you are going to grow as a person from facing college or your friends. It takes some courage to go outside when you are feeling terrible, but if you do it anyway your friends are only going to appreciate that. It shows you are a strong person. You can do it, by doing it!

Find the positive things you get from the interaction in your life.
Go outside, if you stay in all the time there is only yourself and some walls to talk to, and that is quite depressing for anyone in general. People are designed to interact.

It's perfectly normal to feel depressed at times. Don't let others tell you how you should feel. You are you, and believe me you have got a lot of good qualities that are unique. You can do it.

Answer 2

Stop feeling sorry for yourself for a start.

If you can recognise the depressive traits it means you can remember the happy traits so think of a time or situation that was good and everything seemed to work sit up straight remeber that moment

hold that thought for 10 seconds.

Then get on with the rest of your day.

Every time you slip into woe is me then do that exercise. People generally only get depressed because they want sympathy for something or another the reality is depression is mainly self induced ( other than genuine clinical depression which your doctor would have told you about and would be obvious)

Exercise and breathing also help so stop moaning when your down and get up and do something

Answer 3

Motivation is like a flame. First you must find inspiration to create a spark, but if you do not take your spark and quickly cultivate it, it will soon be lost. Once you're inspiration is created, act quickly, for you must turn your sparks into flames. You do this by forming a vividly clear picture in your mind of exactly what you want. Use colorful vivid imagery for this stage. Then you must just create a habit by doing the activity every day for 21 days (the amount of time it takes to form a new habit). If you lose your motivation, seek more inspiration. Inspiration is short lived, but it serves it's purpose to propel you towards action. But beware, Fear and anxiety are like the bucket of water that smothers and prevents your flame to turn into a furious blaze. You must be sure you have no negative emotions associated with your actions, and you will soar higher than the clouds, ready to accomplish even the seemingly impossible tasks.

Answer 4

I was like this at university, it is hard when everyone is so happy and it feels like it wouldn't matter if you were there or not. Try getting out and doing some exercise or sports and collect your thoughts and think about where you wanna go in life, but don't be too serious as nobody really knows where they'll end up. After that talk to others and have a bit of fun.

Answer 5

Start by writing down what you want to accomplish in the next five years, in the next year, and in the next few weeks. Make a game plan for each goal. Along with this write down what accomplishing each goal will "do for you". For example if your goal was to loose weight, you might find that if you did it you would have a better job outlook, a better self-image, and feel better.

Take baby steps. The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first small step. Be kind to yourself. God made you unique and He doesn't make any junk.

You are special and you will see that if you have your life in order. Do you have a relationship with God now? If not, that is the first baby step. Then ask Him about the rest. I have already prayed that God will lead you and that you will find out what is missing in your life.

Answer 6

well its very normal to feel like this,it is coz of mood variations.well just be happy and dont compare urself with those who have achieved greater than u.comparison often leads to depression as well when u are not able to reach that expected level.so just be satisfied and b happy recounting what u have achieved in ur life.feel free and give sometime for urself wherein u can talk to urself,take a survey of ur own life and then u will get to know the reason why u get depressed.so just leave all ur troubles and lead a care free life.

Answer 7

well actually, you don't. you just live your life and hope for the best in whatever you do. eventually some days will come where you'll see what a beautiful life you have and how fortunate you are to have the family and/or friends you have; or how life have been really good to you.

ah yes, such is the life of the depressed.... *sigh*

what i suggest is you go on to college to see more of life and get active. that way you'll lessen your depression and have fun with more people around. =)

good luck! ^_^

Answer 8

If you don't stay motivated you will never reach your goals.

It's the top of the mountain, if you quit climbing now, you will be stuck in the middle of nowhere and still having to get back down. Might as well keep going up.

Think of where you want to be. Then think, no pain, no gain. Then keep trekking on.

Answer 9

Write a list of things to do today and challenge youself to see how many you can get done in a day. Make you feel like you have achieved somthing. That said I think I should stop wasting my time on here and do something more productive!!!!

Answer 10

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