nobody's perfect..my boyfriend cheated on me 4 months into the relationship. we split up but got back together and have been so strong since...we confide in each other and spend a lot of time together.. we are best friends now. our families have met each other and things have been great.
4 days ago, we both had plans of going out seperately with our own friends. he went out with a friend of his whom i don't particularly like(bad company) and i went out with one of my girlfriends.
i came back rather early and @ 6am, i gave him a call. he told me he was in an expensive hotel and that he and his friend shad booked 2 rooms after their nite out (one friend had come from out of town). i called the hotel to check out the story and thats where he was.
my hearts of hearts tells me nothin happend but because of last year, i can't help but feel that maybe he strayed again...
i don't know what to do. when confronted, he apologisd for not calling and promisd nothin happen. is he lying?
2006-10-03 21:27:31 · 15 answers · asked by robert 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Speaking from experience, I would say that 9 out of 10 times you "get a feeling",you are usually right. I was always led to believe in previous relationships, that it was somehow my paranoia that led to them cheating(no, the arguments are caused by their guilty conscience). But now I'm settled with a descent guy, and I realise that all the time I thought I was right..........I was.
2006-10-03 22:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by siany warny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"nobody's perfect..my boyfriend cheated on me 4 months into the relationship. we split up but got back together and have been so strong since"
So how long is since? If this was a long time ago then perhaps i would think that he could be telling the truth, but then again as someone else has said why book to rooms in a expensive place if your just looking for somewhere to crash for the night unless of course hes loaded and money isnt a prob.
Truth is whatever anyone says here only you know him well enough to know if he is or not or at least make a informed judgement on this. Its hard but dont let your heart rule your head on this. Go with what your head, the facts and your gut say they are usually right!
p.s someone said that chances of you finding someone else are remote not sure if they were joking or not but of course you will if you wanted to. Whatever your bf is like he was interested in you so others will be too. Hope it works out for you what ever happens............
2006-10-04 05:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by windwalker296 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have much choice but to believe him. I mean, you can't have a good relationhip if you don't have trust. You can either trust him or not. LOTS of couples can move on after one has strayed. They trust the other one again, and everything is the same or maybe even better. So the decision is up to you as to how you can go about dealing with your trust issues. I KNOW he gave you reason to not trust him, but you have to move on if that's what you both decided together. When you found out, you probably said it would take you a while, but you could learn to trust him again, and stay together. So you can't hang everything over his head. Just try to get over your feelings of mistrust.
2006-10-04 04:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect example of why you never take back a cheater. As the years go by with him, you'll always carry this mistrust with you. He's probably being faithful in this situation, but you'll never be able to trust him fully. My friend was cheated on by his then GF. He took her back and ended up marrying her. 8 years later they still have trust issues. Even though he loves her he holds a serious grudge against her and is fearful she will cheat again. Do yourself a favor and save yourself from a life like this.
2006-10-04 04:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he is lying or not, do not push it, he will dump you again and you know that the chances of findiong anyone interested in you are remotre. Let him play away and try to be more accomodating sexually to hold onto him More O A Outdoor and group xxx God Bless ps get a check up regularly down below xx
2006-10-04 04:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say it but sounds it like a fib to me, I might be wrong. Guys don't bother getting anywhere flashy and certainly not seperate rooms unless they have company that they wanna impress. most blokes are happy sleeping on a floor or a couch after heavy drinking and it seems odd that they would go to an expensive hotel just to crash after heavy drinking. but then I'm just going on how me my mates and just about any bloke I know, he may be different.
2006-10-04 04:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know
if he was lying he wouldn't tell you the name of the hotel in case you turned up there.
he could have told you he was anywere and you would have had to believe him giving you the hotel makes it more that he is telling the truth
2006-10-04 04:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by JAMES OY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he was lying to you, u are just paranoid cos of wat he did previously. if u really love him and want d relationship to work u have to start trusting him more from now. i sense that u are a bit too in his face, not giving him space, that can be annoying, so chill and let him fly if he is urs he will fly back to you. and pls be more secure in d relationship
2006-10-04 05:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm this really is a hard one for you, sit him down and talk to him, honey nobody will no if hes lying except you, in your question, you sound like you desperatly wont to trust him, so follow your gut feelings........good luck, i am sure all will be fine.
2006-10-08 00:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to trust him if you want the relationship to work unless you find out something different........ then go get your own hotel room
2006-10-04 04:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋