flirty little comments towards me when my wife was not around. I didnt think anything about it until yesterday. She came over to the house while my wife was still at work. She new that she didnt get off until 7 but she came over anyway. She came in and we were just sitting on the couch talking and all of a sudden she put her hand on my thigh and leaned in to kiss me. I got up and asked her to leave and she tried to kiss me again. This time I got kinda mad and told her to leave.
Now here's my problem. Should I tell my wife what happened? Part of me feels like I should but I dont want to cause them to have a huge fight. If I dont tell my wife things are just going to be awkward as hell between me and her sister but at least they will still get along.
What should I do?
2006-10-03 20:26:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her - if she finds out any other way you are toast. She may have even set it up to see if you are faithful.
I would point out to her the grief that would come from getting mad at her sister and ask her not to. Just keep it between yourselves.
Tell your wife everything, otherwise later it will come back to bite you.
2006-10-03 20:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by teef_au 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 11:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by wach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately tell your wife about what has happened. Secrets have a way of coming out eventually and it's best to deal with it head on now than later. No matter what happens, your wife and her sister will fight over it and if you dont come clean it can come back and backfire against you, maybe her sister claiming you came on to her, you just never know. Just tell you wife
2006-10-03 20:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by francis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean to your wife. If it somehow gets out in the future, she is going to be pissed and hurt that you didnt tell her. In addition, the little sister sounds like a nutbar, and she probably will try something similar in the future. Maybe dont tell your wife everything, but mention that she made an advance on you.
Your wife is going to be upset and outraged at her sister, and things will suck for awhile, but family is family and they will always be in each others lives, and they will get through it.
Good luck - thats a brutal spot to be in.
2006-10-03 20:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you feel is right. If telling your wife makes you feel better than tell her. Unless you want to wait and see if she makes a pass at you again. I think honesty in a marriage is very important. But remember it's not your fault. She tried coming on to you and you told her to leave!
I'm sure your wife will listen to you. And maybe set her sister straight. Good luck!
2006-10-03 20:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bad spot. You should have told your wife that her sister is a little too flirty for comfort. Then let them hash it out, but be supportive of your wife.
2006-10-04 05:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife as soon as you can. You never know..her sister could get pissed at you for rejecting her and turn it all around on you and tell your wife you made advances on her instead of the way it actually happened.
2006-10-03 20:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With thumb drives and mp3 recorders, it is cinch to record her overtures and replay them for your wife if she does not believe you. You need not let her hear the recordings first. Tell her and then use the mp3 if she does not believe you.
You are walking a dangerous tight rope and the sooner you cut loose, the faster you can swing out of trouble.
2006-10-03 20:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by angstrom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife, get to her first because if she finds out from her she might lie & say you've been the one making moves on her. So tell first before it causes problems in your marraige & good luck
2006-10-03 20:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a good man a real good man. I think what you did of rejecting her will let her think twice before she do again. Just let her know that she is forgiven, but, you will tell your wife if she try to do it again. But then,be cautious because some women can't accept rejection and they get revenge, which I hope not in your case. Good luck.
2006-10-03 20:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by anobangtanong 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋