We have been together 4 years. Just had our anniversary. I loved him almost immediatly. I thought he felt the same. We were always talking, smiling, happy. He got locked up, set up, and I waited for him. He said he wanted me to be there for him and needed to know if I really cared. I had many boyfriends before tell me they love me, marry me, all that crap pushed me away but he was different more loving and needing. I waited and worked, saved, studied at school. Then there we were 16 months later. We would work during the day drunkn sex all night. no worries. Then came our son, he moved me to a new place to work. his parents pretty much manage the carnival and he grew up out on the road so that was what we did. I tried to adjust but I ended up dealing w/ it by drinking. when we got really bad he blamed it on alcohol so I quit. 10 weeks later he hasn't at all been good to me romantically. he doesn't have time at all for me. Please help me decide what to do without hurting my son.
2006-10-03 20:21:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would suggest doing some romantic stuff, maybe a nice home cooked romantic dinner. Just don't overdo it or try to make it all perfect, if anything try to make a few mistakes here and there, just to see if he notices it. If he does, then he should be aware that you really care and have feelings for him. One classic way to get some attention is that all the "mistakes" happen to you only, such as "My steak is overcooked (though his isn't)," or spill a glass of wine on yourself and feel really embarassed. Some actions like that should surely get you some attention. You could also try "offering" yourself to him, such as through role playing, or buy something sexy and provocative to wear. You could also try being the alpha male, or female and try commanding him to see how he handles it (as in the bedroom I mean), I'm not too sure how he might react if it was in a normal situation. If you really want to get his attention, try doing some things together with your son, and if you son is old enough, smart enough, or clever enough to act well, you can try and make him say "I love you" and other sentimental phrases that might make him enjoy the idea of everyone being together.
2006-10-03 20:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by bloop87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sad for you and your situation, sounds like life has been tough, I wish I could wave a magic wand, but all I can say is - move on - and hope that your son will understand. The situation could get a lot worse and you and your son might be in danger. try to extricate yourself from this situation, find a job nearby before you move out, try talking to him about how unhappy you are, and lay down the basis for a break up so he will actually be expecting it and won't go crazy when you do it. Sorry darlin, but it's difficult and I hope you can work it out.....
2006-10-03 20:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by fed up with stupid questions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you've already made your decision, you just want validation. Either way your son is going to be hurt. If you stay your son will know your misery and if you continue to drink it will be extremely evident to everyone else. If you leave now your son will miss his father (maybe) but in time will outgrow the boy behavoir and become a man himself. So which is you want? You son to see you miserable and blame himself or do you want to change your life and his for the better?
2006-10-03 20:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is right for you in the end that will be right for your son also. Dont stay in a unhappy relationship just for your son.
2006-10-03 20:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You waited for him, he changed, your love for him did not. Drunken sex came without responsibility.
A child came and so came the responsibility for another.
you both have changed, make time for yourself.
2006-10-03 21:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋