I'm 19 (almost 20) and my boyfriend is 22. Our one year anniversary is this month, and we arn't planning on getting hitched any time soon. We are sexually active and practicly live at each other's houses (I've got a toothbrush at his place along with several changes of clothes, sleep over there about 3 nights out of 5) and we're currently looking for apartments in order to move in together.
Right? Wrong? When do you think a couple is ready to move in together? Really, we're going to do it no matter what, I was just curious about what other people thought about "living in sin" as it were in this day and age. Please give reasons for your answers.
2006-10-03 20:17:34 · 10 answers · asked by Girl Wonder 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Dr Dee, please tell me why I should move in with a guy only after I have committed my life to him without finding out first if he is completly impossible to live with. It's better to break a lease than get a divorce, after all.
2006-10-03 20:21:55 · update #1
I say go for it. If you are practically living together anyways, you may as well share expenses. The only down side to living together as opposed to marriage are legalities, insurance benefits, wills , etc.
Blessings )O(
2006-10-03 20:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think a couple should start living together when they're ready for it themselves and want to take that step. I think it's better to live together before marriage so that you know whether you can stand living together before making a commitment by marriage. When people start living together they often discover sides of their partner that they didn't know before. So in case those sides are unbearable, it's better to find out before you get married. If more people did that I'm sure there would be a lower divorce rate.
You shouldn't care what other people think about this, you should do whatever you and your boyfriend feel is right for you. It's your life, your choice and if you living together without being married bothers someone that's their own problem.
2006-10-03 20:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by undir 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well to basics. The right time and all that. What you are doing now is dating even if you spend a few days in each others house, and he res the rub. Moving in with somebody changes everything. No privacy. discovering all the little quirks and specifics of two personalities sharing the same space. getting on each others nerves for trivia(unavoidable). Intimately learning your personalities. Be ready for a lot of compromise. Freedom of movement compromised. Sooner or later you are going to do it within or without wedlock. You are never ready for it. You can not prepare for it. You just do it and learn. I'm a past master at this and still learning. I've had plenty of cohabitation and marriages. Each situation is different, Result YOU ARE NEVER READY.
2006-10-03 20:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by The Stainless Steel Rat 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'd wait. I easily were with my fiancee for 4 years and we nonetheless do no longer stay with eachother. he's a instructor and that i'm nonetheless a school student. We met at the same time as he became in college or perhaps although i became in college too we lived at 2 diverse places on 2 diverse aspects of city. Even now, being engaged and me being pretty a lot complete with college, we are waiting till eventually we get married. I spend friday -sunday evening at his living house. you ought to do this. in case you do flow in it really is you and your gf descion yet i have self belief it really is going to create better stree on the relationship. case in factor, she would sense like it really is her duty to prepare dinner and sparkling even at the same time as shes were given reading to do. What takes position if she needs some guy acquaintances to come back over? there are a range of small information that would create stress very right now .Whos gunna do the grocery procuring? I say that you ought to attend! if you're meant to be married youll have the total man or woman life to stay together. have exciting together and seperatly now, then make that dedication later! good success, and dont rush into some thing too quickly!
2016-11-26 01:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Living in sin' is a silly, outdated concept. For me, I liked the idea of still maintaining separate residences just to have the privacy thing for a while. I needed to wait until I was older to actually move in with someone -- my girlfriend (now my wife) moved in with me but it was only after I had lived on my own for a while and I was older -- it was best for me, given what I know now as opposed to when I was in my 20s.
2006-10-03 20:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are already living together but sharing your own home is the next move you are as good as married but it would be better to make it leagal I know more expense. you do not care what we say so do as you please
2006-10-03 20:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally am not big on marriage. Commitment is in the heart. i say go for it...
2006-10-03 20:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
They should live together after they are married.
2006-10-03 20:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
after marriage
2006-10-04 14:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by adorable 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you are married.
2006-10-03 20:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋