...and they kept persusing, trying to chat with you, even wanting to meet you, revealing themselves emotionaly...when you had so many unanswered questions about a relationship that lasted several years...(when they cheated, lied) ... would you continue to chat with them? Not because you wanted them back, but because you wanted to understand wtf happened.
Plus you needed to know what he is up to (ie address, phone number, employment details) because he bailed out a planned pregnancy and left you high and dry?
Would you talk to them, how far would you take it.?
2006-10-03 20:04:31 · 14 answers · asked by jennyjo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yep baby is coming in a few months.
2006-10-03 20:35:01 · update #1
While it may sound tempting, the problem with that is he may end up not being totally honest and might fabricate certain aspects of his past or even twist the truth just so he can look good in your eyes....assuming he doesn't know who u are and is trying to impress u.
2006-10-03 20:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 03:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by leinen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chat with him and find out what happened in his last relationship. Prod him a little, like "Have you ever been married or engaged before, any kids?" if he responds yes go further and get your answer(s). You need closure.
Many guys do not allow women closure but in this case you deserve it. Even if you have to go all private investigator on him to get it.
Also if you need to find out where he lives and his phone number you can start with a free search on www.zabasearch.com (very good especially if you know what state he lives in) or www.privateeye.com (small price to pay for the right info). He needs to take care of his responsibility too.
2006-10-03 20:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by TheOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably take it as far until you can get him to sign a check and send it in. This means you will probably have to make about 40 or more emails and about 100+ IMs. if you exchange cellies, then about 25 or more texts. If you go so far to chat with him, you'll need to talk to him at least once a day to establish a trusting relationship. That's at least what I would recommend.
2006-10-03 20:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by richieZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remeber you are the better person here. as much as you want some sort of revenge or closure do it the right way. I would not talk to them unless it was a mature conversation. you can sue for child support or get a lawyer to do this for you. if you know he is a liar why would you take his word for anything now?
2006-10-03 20:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that.
Same situation as you.
Revenge, or anger seems to get the better of us at times doesn't it.
For me it lasted 4 months. Four months of lies. Trying to remember it all was just crazy.
All he did was lie about me and glorified himself.
It just ended up hurting me more.
Trust me, some things are better left unsaid ;) and its not worth it. You are better than that. After all, you do have child to think about now.
2006-10-03 20:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Looking_for_Guidance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a one way ticket to nowhere. Besides if you did not get any straight answers in the past, what makes you think you will now !
2006-10-03 20:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would so continue to talk to him and pretend not to know him. You have a child with this man? Make sure you save everything that he writes to you so you can use it in court against him. Good luck!
2006-10-03 20:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one deceit does not justify another ... you diminish yourself and become the same as them. be up front and honest, ask for what you need. there are other ways to secure financial support from them without resorting to trickery and deceit
2006-10-03 20:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have so much fun with this. Be telling them all kinds of things I "guessed" about them and have them wondering who the hell am I???
2006-10-03 20:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋