I have a real problem getting on with people,because i see things differently to everyone else.Any ideas?

Question

I dont go out anymore,because I just end up the same,Nobody wants to know me because of this.This gets me very depressed.Have tried to join in but been unsuccessful at getting a friend or two.Idont follow fashion because I see it as someone else telling me what i should wear,and charge the earth for what I can only discribe as rags.Football is another,I have watch games for quite a while but cannot see why people get so excited over someone being able to kick a ball and get paid alot of money for doing so.Big brother is another. What is Big brother! Its people being lab rats nothing more

Answer 1

It seems you are extremely negative in your thinking with an implied superiority. No one wants to be around someone who scoffs at their interests. Find out what you ARE interested in and become involved in healthy interests. Be kind to others. Remember "a rebel is really a conformist turned inside out;" You are taking the "easy" road by being cynical because, then, you don't have to make contributions to life. Find someone healthy or professional to talk with about your depression.

Answer 2

The fact you see things from a diffrent point of view is a good attribute, your diffrent and people usually find that an attractive quality.

I think the problem could your attitude, you seem to come across as comfrontational, even in the way you have phrased the text above.

For example, fashion isn't telling you what to wear, you have a choice, i have never seen a fashion tv show saying you MUST wear this, you HAVE TO wear this.
Your perception of this could be a clue to where things are going wrong in your relationships with people.

Another example is that you see other peoples passion for an interest they have as something annoying, you don't agree is one thing, the fact you find it irritating is something else.

I'm sure there are things you are passionate about, be it your children when you have them, motor sport, food, sex, whatever and wouldn't the world be an extremely boring place if nobody had a passion for something?
We'd be all like Zombies walking through life with no cares for anything or anyone.

So to conclude, i think you have an attitude problem and probably a chip on your shoulder too.

That'll be me ruled out of 'best answer' then.lol

Answer 3

It's absolutely normal to have different opinions and interests from other people, that's what makes everyone unique and creates an identity that no one else has. You can't get on with everybody and you just have to accept that but if it's getting to the point where no one wants to be around you then this is a problem you have to address.
You have to learn to compromise with people and if they like something you don't then you can't do anything about it and you must realise that you can't change people because it sounds like that's what you try to do. You can voice your opinions and debate on issues that mean things to you and in turn, this becomes a healthy conversation. Don't alienate yourself or other people because of your beliefs and accept that not everyone is like you.
I don't particularly enjoy football all that much but it doesn't mean i'll sit there until i'm blue in the face saying why i hate it. It's just a simple 'i'm not that interested' and then move onto something that you like or find a topic you like and that someone shares with you and gradually you'll find that people will find it easier to approach you.

Answer 4

There are alot of people out there the same as you belive me.
My husband hates football and fashion is somthing both of us have never been into i just buy what i like to wear.
and i agree big brother is somthing that i think is a load of c**p
i don't see what all the fuss is about.
I would be greatfull that you have a mind of your own and my advice is when topics like that come up just stay quiet and nod in all the right times.
I find a sense of humor is the best tool to make friends and belive me i have a wicked one.
If you can get people to laugh then they will start to like you if that don't work then i would say they are not worth knowing and look for other people to get to know.
I also find that having kids helps you to mix or a dog to walk as it is a great way to start a coversation and a dog will get you out of the house.
hope this has helped

Answer 5

It's true that people are all different!

Here's my advice:
1. Unless you like the gym don't go there to meet people because it's expensive and most people there are all about good looks and fashion. It sounds like you realise that there's more to life than these things.

2. What do you like? You only mentioned things that you don't like and you'll find that heaps of people hate Big Brother-personally i think it should be axed. I like football, but thats because I liek to play it and love seeing my mum yelling at the players to "kick the ball" and swearing her head off. It makes me laugh. But, footie isnt for everyone... and as far as fashion goes? YUCk! have you seen the clothes in magazines? I prefer to walk into a shop and if i find something that makes me feel beautiful and suits my personality then i buy it.

Try to focus on the things you like and when you go to parties talk to people about your interests. No 2 people are the same and it takes time to make true friends. I have had so many friendship groups, but none were right for me, so now I have a few friends from over the years that i keep in contact with and love dearly. If you get along with any family members-cousins, brothers, sisters, parents--it is okay to count them as friends too! lol. Do what makes you happy, chat to people online, talk to new people at school or work or wherever you go...
Don't feel sad about being different because one day it's going to count for a lot of things and set you aside from the majority...it helped me get a job at an interview!
When you stand out from the crowd, people notice you...just make sure you stay true to yourself.

Answer 6

I'm not sure how old you are.

It's ok, and necessary, to have your own opinions. But maybe, instead of focusing on your opinions, you can try to find out about the people you meet. Find out what they are interested in, and you may find some common ground

I think the problem may be that you are not sensitive to other people, and their feelings. Perhaps you voice your opinions so loudly and strongly that other people feel brow beaten by them...They are entitled to have their opinions too, and you shouldn't try to force them to adopt yours. This may not be the case, so say if it isn't.

As for clothes, a lot of younger people do gravitate to people who share the same tastes as them in fashion etc. or who look attractive to them in the way they dress. Maybe you could try to wear clothes which "fit in" to what people see as acceptable while adding little touches to keep your own individuality? You don't have to, but isn't conforming a little better than being at home on your own?

I hope that you manage to find a happy medium, and fit in without losing your individuality. Good luck!

Answer 7

Don't stress yourself out, everyone has their own perspective on things, and one person's view does not necessarily mean it is right or wrong over another person's view. I wouldn't worry too much if you can't get along with people, there are plenty of people out there just like you. Think of it this way, consider yourself independent, you will no longer become dependent on others for favors, help, and anything else you can think of. But having some friends couldn't hurt you, if you really have trouble, you can try getting some counseling or prescription medicine to see if it cures what ails you. You could also just try making friends online, there are plenty of people out on the internet eager to chat.

Answer 8

Just pretend to get along with people...for the sake that you don't
want to alienate yourself from them. Just agree once in a while..
Then they won't see you as "the enemy". Wer'e all the same
deep down really. We all want to feel we belong. But, you must
be a leader, not a follower. In other words, blaze a new trail.....
don't keep following the old ones. Picture the pure white snow,
not a mark on it. Start your own path. Learn people skills. Buy
some books or go to a library. This will build your self-esteem.
Eleanor Rosevelt said," No one can make you feel inferior....
without your permission". Very true.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

find a hobby that has a club you can join. The people you meet might not like the same clothes, sports and TV shows as you but at the very least you'll have your hobby in common. Pets can be friends if you really don't get on with people? Also, be careful that you're not putting out, 'you don't want to know me' vibes when you are trying to meet new people just because you already think they aint gonna to like you.

Good luck with making new friends