And i feel if i go for another one there will be long gap between my first daughter and second. Is it good?
2006-10-03 19:52:45 · 19 answers · asked by viji b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's fine. They'll get close for a little while when they are very young if you dont put to much pressure on the elder one to be the surrogate caretaker, remember, theyre both kids.
Theyll bond later in their 20's once again if they remain close, especially if they are 2 girls or two boys. It just depends on their individual personalities and how you handle them. Kind of like having two 'only childs'. The gap is big but it should be fine. ;) Family is family!
2006-10-03 19:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was thirty and my son was 6 years old when I had my daughter, then a year later I had a boy and I was 31 yrs old.
My daughter has a six 1/2 year old and a 1 year old. The older one is amazing with the little one.
Don't worry about the gap -- it will be wonderful.
Your daughter will be thrilled to be a big sister.
It is good. Go for it.
2006-10-04 03:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in having a long gap but do it fast before its more late.
We have a family in our society who has a daughter of 15 years and now a son of 10 years then in my own building my friend is 23 years while her youngest brother is just 8 years, dont get surprisesd
2006-10-04 05:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
I think the age difference between children is good to be from 4 to 6 years. So, have another baby! Why not?
2006-10-04 03:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by His Name is Majid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It's not a matter of good or bad, Long gap between one and the other. Your daughter should have a brother/sister to play. definetly she will be very happy to have a brother/sister. No doubt about it.
2006-10-04 03:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by vasanth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I had my first at 30! Then had 2nd at 35. So, 6yrs isnt much of a difference. just remember to make special time for the older one. VERY important thing to do is to, while pregnant, reassure the older one that you n dad and new baby love them very much:D allow the older one to make decisions pertaining to the new baby!! IT creates a permanent bond and makes the older one feel even more special and proud to be the older sybling. :-x For example, I allowd my older one to choose her sisters name!! YES! And they now both tell the world:)) That is somethin that NOONE will break, that very personal bond. Good luck and GET lots of rrest...lol It is okay, to have that gap, just remind and demonstrate to the older one, about, SHARING. ROFL. They must now SHARE, EVERYthing and its tough! Especially, if its just BAM, a sudden thing. IT starts with you n spouse...the 3 of you prctice sharing. they pick up quickly...
2006-10-04 03:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Our Kind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and i have nine kids our oldest is 13 and our youngest is going to be one....big gap there...is it bad no because our older kids are able to help out with the younger ones....in some cases yes it does seem to be bad.....but its how you raise them if that makes sense...if you raise them close then they should become close regardless of age...but if let them think from the get go that age is a big difference between them well its not going to go so well...the older one will leave the younger one out of a lot through out the years....you also have to think of the way your daughter will act she was the only one for so long....all nine of my kids are close as can be....like i said before its how you raise them.....
2006-10-04 03:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does not matter, what matter is your being a parent, your loving, being there, teaching values, ethics, morality and showing that you care about everything that they do.
Start the six year old on music, flute, violin, oboe or trumpet. Involve her in tennis and helping you with all phases of caring for the house.
Too, let her know that she is the oldest and is responsible for her sister. That means nothing happening to her, sharing and taking care of her the way that you must take care of both of them!
Have her take martial arts also.
2006-10-04 03:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you said that to say what my oldest brother is 56 my second oldest brother is 46, I am 36 and my youngest brother is 34..We are all by the same parents making my Mom 42 when she had my youngest brother.. You can do it and babies are a blessing from GOD.. If you can conceive then do the dang on thing !!!
2006-10-04 03:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE ONLY ONE SON AND DO NOT WANT ANOTHER, BUT YOU COULDN'T BLAME ME. I BECAME A FATHER AT NINETEEN, AFTER MY FIRST CHILD WENT UP FOR ADOPTION. WE WERE BOTH SO YOUNG, MY WIFE AND I. SHE WAS TWENTY-TWO. WE MARRIED BUT PROMISED NOT TO HAVE ANYMORE.
HOWEVER, I IMAGINE THE ADVANTAGE IS THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO FOCUS ON THE YOUNGER CHILD MORE AND ARE STILL YOUNG ENOUGH TO DO IT. YOU ARE ALSO A LITTLE WISER THE SECOND TIME AROUND. THE FIRST CHILD CAN BE INVOLVED. I THINK SIBLING RIVALRY IS LESS LIKELY TO OCCUR. MY BROTHER AND I ARE CLOSE IN AGE AND WE FOUGHT SOMETIMES. I HATE FIGHTING. HE LIKES TO JUMP ON THINGS AND THEN WIN THE ARGUMENT.
2006-10-04 02:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋