I saw my friend with her boyfriend entering motel. I thought she's innocent at first i mean i freak out and want to give her some advice about relationships. Do you thinks it's not right to judge her inspite of all these? I mean it isn't cheap to go to a place like that even when you're with the one you really love? i mean she's not what i thought so. she's very naive when it comes to that. Give me some opinion here please
actually the motel is nearby place along my working area and i found her while entering there.
...it's not what i meant about judging her or what. last time on a coffee break one of our co-worker talk about her and they told me that they saw my friend there too. I don't know how to break the silence and defend her. I know she's in love with the right guy and he's not committed to anyone but gossips around the office includes me. That's why i want to open this to her.
2006-10-03 19:44:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm always leery of a friend who tells me about people gossiping behind my back and what is her motive.
First off it's no ones business what your friend does in her personal life. It's not like she's sneaking in under a disguise, so she is aware that people are seeing her.
Just be her friend and if she wants to share about her man, listen, laugh and have fun.
Good friends are hard to find and it's nice you care so much for her reputation..
I guess you could say something to those who are gossiping, but that would probably be wasted air.
2006-10-03 19:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might NEED you right now. She may have given in to the pressure because she didn't know any better and had no idea of the repercussions of her bad decision.
DON'T desert her.
She needs her friends.
Don't turn your back on her right now...if she continues with this type of behavior then you may want to tell her that you don't feel comfortable being friends with someone like that, but for the meantime just talk to her.
Be the friend you SAY you are.
My friends totally deserted me after they found out what I'd done and I was left with like 1 friend. So what'd I do...
I turned to where I would fit in...
with the crowd that didn't judge me for it
and guess what....?
I just got worse and worse because I felt so bad about who I was...
You might be able to save her and isn't she at least worth that?
Good luck sweetie...
-pp
2006-10-04 02:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gossip my friend is gossip,once it's out there all kinds of stories will evolve...I would mention it to her on the strength of her being your friend, and protecting her relationship with you as well as her reputation..Once your reputation is destroyed you can never get it back.. You both may consider finding another spot in a distant area..yes gas is high, but that's a small price to pay to keep the public out of your life and being water cooler discussions at the office!!!
2006-10-04 02:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that she is "seen" in motels with her boyfriend and that people are starting to "talk".
Since you "work" around the area, they are associating you with your friend, and letting you "know" whats going on.
Let her know that she is making a public spectacle of herself and her boyfriend, as a lot of people must know her :)
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-10-04 02:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and bring up the topic with her. make sure your intentions are heartfelt and that you just want to be there for her. i am sure she would understand, if she truely is your friend. this may be hard to do, but it will definitely help and make your friendship stronger. Don't keep strong thoughts to yourself, let her know. good luck and i hope things will turn out.
2006-10-04 02:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by mink_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wht do u think y they go to motel for? hey hey hey dont even think of it for "having sex" they might need some privacy or somthing....other then sex.
Just ask? May be you could get differenct answer? even if that is right...may be they have good reason for it.
2006-10-04 02:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by aarshi72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out tell her what's going on, and let her know what she needs to know. If she's your tru friend, she'll listen to what you have to say, good or bad! Good luck!
2006-10-04 02:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by MiLuv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry on her behalf love. Its too late. Live your life well and you will never have a worry.
2006-10-04 02:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her people are talking and you dont want to here it .just let her know ,but it is noones bussiness but hers
2006-10-04 02:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal? are you jealous?
2006-10-04 02:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by John Scary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋