I think too many people try to settle down too soon in life and that's why it never works out. I'm referring to straight and gays. But as a member of the GLBT community, when do you think is a good time to start settling down? I plan to start looking for someone to settle down permanently around 25.Don't get me wrong,Ii'm not talking about sleeping around in the meantime beforehand. I always have monagamous relationships. When I say settle down permanently, I mean marriage. But I know so many people who are like 20 who have only been dating the person they are with for like 6 months who are talking about marriage. You just think to yourself, is it going to work out? I'm not saying that it will never work out with people like this, but I believe in getting to know yourself and the other person as well before jumping into things.
2006-10-03 19:19:46 · 9 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For me, between 25-28. By that age I think ill be at a very good and stable job, living on my own, hopefully at a very trendy city lol and well more mature of course and I will know what I want in life. I know what you mean, not that I wanna sleep around right now but I mean if we are young we should see different things, try different stuff and have fun too of course why not!
2006-10-03 19:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by antoni_m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18-23 settling down was nowhere on the agenda, but now that I am 26, have had some life experience, gotten to know myself a little bit better, i think late 20's is a good age to start thinking about finding that special someone to have a future with.
2006-10-04 06:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by angelajock 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I really don't think settleing down has an age. When I finally do, It will only matter on the person I plan to do it with not my age. Say I were to find the man of my life tomorrow, that would work out great. But then again if I found the same guy five, ten years from now it would happen then. As long as your have your "soul mate" it really dosen't matter your age. Hope this helped darling. Kisses.
2006-10-04 02:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed younger people wanting to settle down quickly, too. My brother and SIL are 25 and 21; they've been married for a year and a half! I think young LGBTs have caught that fever.
I think a good age is when you're reasonably independent, have paid down some debts, have experienced some time on your own, and know for sure that you want your partner. Mid-twenties sounds about right to me.
(My wife and I were 29 and 30, respectively, when we married.)
2006-10-04 02:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Too many people try to selle down way too early and I am going to say I was one of them. I would wait till you are atleast 25 then start thinking about what your going to want in life. I started at 22 and every thing I wanted has changed so much. Take some advice from me lission to your heart when making your decisions and don't let others make them for you. I failed to do that. I am going on therty and just now lissing to my heart and what a diffrence. Rember you only have one life so be happy.
2006-10-04 07:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother told me never to get married before 30. You don't know who you are until about that age. I am not married, but I am with my girlfriend now and we have plans to get married. I am 28, she is 27, and I think those are good ages to settle down. It's not quite what my mother recommended, but it's close. Those people who get married at 20 are crazy. You need to experience things, have some fun, find out who you are before you give yourself to someone else.
2006-10-04 02:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by NightTrainWooWoo 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ummm i plan to settle down once i know shes the one and i am going to make a good decision for the both of us. But saying that i have already been in a pretty full on relationship and i was only young when that happened, and i wouldn't want to do that again it was just to full on...
2006-10-04 02:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to matters such as marriage and commitment it all comes down to the couple maturity. wisdom comes with experience not age alone. I personally think that 25 is a reasonable age because you get all the party out of you so to speak. However marriage is a blessed event and is to be cherished at any age.
2006-10-04 02:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by pennie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be settle in life is not in our hand its depends on luck.but 1 thing is real when u r heart says that settle here do it u will happy in any age age is not important to settle circumstances r important for settle
2006-10-04 02:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by nityakarma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋