I have kids from a previous marriage. My fiance has none and loves my kids. I can not have any more kids. He says this does not bother him although he says he wouldnt mind having a child together and I see this look on his face when he sees a baby. Am I taking a part of his life away from him by marrying him since I cant give him a baby?
2006-10-03 19:16:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should ask him straight out,,, will he regret you becasue you can't have a baby together??? there is always adoption if you really want one that bad,,, ,, can he adopt your child,, there is ways to help him ,,, be honest and open to his ideas,, and concerns,,, Good luck,,,
2006-10-03 19:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by thanks to our brave troops, 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you had your tubes tied or had to have a complete hysterectomy sorry Im asking such personal questions but If you have had your tubes tied its irreversible, even if you have the cut tied and burnt theres still a possibility that you could get pregnant I have known a few women who have actually been pregnant even with them cut tied and burnt, anyway to answer your question, I dont think that you are taking his life away because there are so many options out there if you want to have another child. I would think that if you love this man as much as he loves you that you should be together even if this is something the both of you will have to work through eventually. I cant have any more kids I have two but this is because my husband had a viscectomy after our second child, I would love to have another one but I dont resent the fact that my husband had this done. We dont get into arguements about it. You can work past anything if your willing to. Dont give up on him because of this. Besides that you have kids that he can get close to and if he doesnt already he will love these kids as if they were his own. Like I said there are plenty of options out there if you really want another child with him in the future... I wish you
the best of luck to you and your future husband
2006-10-04 02:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are giving him a part of him that he could never have, you and your babies. THis is a blessing to him. YOu are a blessing to him. If and when God is ready for you to bare his child, TRUST ME he will make it possible. My husband was not able to have kids. All the way up til now (30) we now have 3 and one on the way....they won't stop coming LOL. Hang in there and enjoy each other.
2006-10-04 02:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he you....don't jeperodise it by thinking stuff that is not there. I am marrying my partner after her having kids and me having kids from previous relationships.....we would give up everything to have one together but can't......but in the end we love each other.
Never give up if you truely want to have a child with him, there are ways IVF and so on.
good luck and hang to him...he is special.......
2006-10-04 02:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Fiji_bound2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats up to him ... if it advances to marriage, discuss this before you say "I do".. he may be under the misconception that surgery or his manliness will create the immaculate conception. remove any doubt that your childbearing days are gone forever before you make the final commitment.
there may be other ways ... artificial insemination, surrogate motherhood, discuss all these options fully if you are willing to go through it for him. his comment suggests that adoption would not fulfill his desire for a child of his own.
2006-10-04 02:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if he is a truley devoted father to your kids, then there will be no problem.
That is, as long as your kids accept him as thier new "dad", unconditionally, then he will be the happiest dad around!
Honor him on Fathers Day, and all other holidays, and that will make him feel like he "is" thier father...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-10-04 02:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's known about you not being able to have any more kids for a long while, then don't worry about it... or, if he's ever told you that he wants you more than he wants kids, then don't worry about it.
2006-10-04 02:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust ive been in same situation
u didnt if he takes those children as his own then he does have kids
2006-10-04 02:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by lv23smurf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he knows ahead of time that you can't have anymore children and chooses to be with you anyway, it seems to me he values you for you and has made his choice.
2006-10-04 02:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him...go to the doctor and see what your other options are....or adopt one of the thousands of babies that need a home...
2006-10-04 02:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by tag571 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋