My brother who was using this account killed himself because his wife divorced him which he knew for all his life. they know each other since kindergarten (our parents were friends). I am really sad. Is there any way for me to feel better? I really miss my brother. I wish I could have prevented him from suicide.
2006-10-03 17:59:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My brother passed away when he was just 18, and I was 15. It was really hard for me to deal with, but the best way to cope is to think about all the positive memories. I like to think back to our childhood and the fun things we did together. Also, when I was first coping with his death, I wrote a lot of poems. Find something that helps express the way you feel- write a poem, write in a journal, play music, whatever you can find that will help you express your feelings. The biggest mistake I did was try to hold everything inside me. Don't be afraid to miss him, but also remember not to be mad at his death. Focus on the happy memories. It helps you keep a good memory of your brother.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-10-03 18:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by mels_ody03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your brother. I cannot feel what you're feeling right now but can relate on a different level. I know someone who committed suicide recently. He had been a friend who needed help and I tried my best to do that. We lost contact because of a move.
The first thing that came to my mind was this choice made no sense. He did have so much in his life, but he didn't see it. There was nothing I could do about that, no convincing that this would not be a good choice.
You will never forget your brother but don't be scared. Try your best to remember him as he was. Please try to help yourself and your family by being together. Once you have helped yourself to a point where you feel you can, maybe you can help others in coping with a similar situation.
Please remember that this has nothing to do with you.
2006-10-04 01:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by happywhereIam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry hun. Time will heal this. I am sure you miss your brother. Try to remember the happy times with your brother. There is nothing you could have done differently and most importantly you should not be thinking that. You should keep a diary of your feelings so that you have some way to get them out. If you ever want to talk you can IM me at somegal321.
2006-10-04 01:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that terrible announcement. Suicide only proved that as well as you think you know someone you don't really know them at all. Look at the guy that killed all the little Amish girls...his family never knew him did they, Nobody did. They are secretive people. I had a nephew who killed himself, he left five children who are still hurting from that selfish act. It was not his first attempt. Only time can help. The pain never goes away is on lessens over time. There are groups out there with the same trauma in their lives...it helps to mix with them.
2006-10-04 01:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting over something like that can be extremely difficult. I recommend expanding your circle of friends, looking for people to hang around with. If you find yourself depending on them and talking about it, the healing process is working. However, I would recommend that you do not use this account for a long time. Maybe later, when the memories don't hurt so much, but for now a little rest could do you some good. Be strong!
2006-10-04 01:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by minstrel_of_munificence 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sometimes the grief can feel overwhelming, but remember his love for you. You'll never forget him, and in time the pain will heal, and you'll have the precious, lovely memories. Right now, words don't mean a whole lot, but in time they will. Try to be strong, and in the days and months ahead know that it will get better.
Sincerely,
nabila
here r some words to give u some hope to cope on eith life...never give up...
"Life is like a clock. We are born, grow up and die according to our biological clock. But we should not cry at the demise of our beloved but instead we should try to fulfill their wishes and be happy, as our beloved would never want us to be unhappy".
When you feel at your worst and you think there is no point in carrying on just remember....things can only get better."
"The darkest hour is before the sun comes up."
"People don't remain alive depending on how long they're alive in body. People remain alive for as long as you remember them."
PS:love the world and smile at the stranger
2006-10-04 01:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by nabila 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'll probably contradict this later, but just know that there's no way you can live withought dying, your brother obviously wasnt happy enough to want to live, and if suicide put him out of his misery then he is in his own better place, he wanted this, he wouldnt have done it if he didnt want it, so the best thing to do is to respect his descision and mourn for only so long, crying doesnt do anyone anygood, if you dont know how to stop...
im sorry that that happened it must have been terrible
peace..
fuzzy.....
2006-10-04 01:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzy19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I lost my dad not that long ago, and no matter how they go it's hard...I know it might be a little harder when it's suicide, just because we know that were not supposed to do it...He was hurting, and now he isn't. There's not a bright side of it at all, and I couldn't imagine having to go through that. Your going through the steps of healing, and you must first talk about it, and forget about what you could have done...I beat myself up alot trying to think of what I could have done to help save my dad...But there's truely nothing you could have done, We have these trials, and it does makes us wake up like never before, and learn from it...May god bless your heart, and I hope that your healing is fast...Good luck...
2006-10-04 01:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by xxxdaisydukesxxx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what are your fears?
it's sad that your bro killed himself, but you didn't push him to do it.
why not get a really personal website made up for him. put some positive ideas for others who are feeling the same way on it so they know they aren't alone.
please do what you can, and try not to become depressed. you can carry him in your heart and still enjoy the life you know he'd want you to have.
2006-10-04 01:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no reason to be afraid of death. your brother took his life because is was the only way out he knew in his depress mind. and there's nothing you could of done to prevent him from taking his life. best thing for you is to try to forgive him and let him go. good luck.
2006-10-04 01:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋