can you ever rebuild trust in a relationship?

Question

is it the truth or not.

Answer 1

Trust can be rebuilt. All parties involved must be willing to work towards this goal.

Answer 2

Perhaps not fully, but for the most part, yes.

I'm working on it with my boyfriend and at first it was very hard. It was like we would take two steps forward and one step back. It's been difficult, but the best part is that he is actually putting in the effort to make things better and we are doing sooooo good now.

I used to feel very insecure about our relationship, but now feel confident, there are times when I second guess him (and with no real reason, other than I can't help it), but that's happening less and less.

If you both want to make the relationship work and put in the effort, then I think rebuilding trust can happen, because if one gives more than the other, I don't think it'll happen successfully.



*And just a note, the only reason I decided to try and rebuild is because we have a son together.

Answer 3

yes, but it depends on how that trust was lost and to what severity. It depends on each person involved. It depends on how committed each person is to reestablishing that trust. and most unfortunately, it will definately take time.
i think you would have to know yourself well enough to know how long it would take you to regain that trust given how someone acted a certain way towards you indefinately. Then you might need to measure the positives and negatives of the situation and figure out if it would be best for you to weather it for a while, fully knowing there is a risk of repeat offense, or just let it all go completely. I think this is one of those few times in your life that you should actually listen to your heart. If you give someone a chance that is pleading with you, there is a chance it will happen again. If they are sensitive to your vulnerability then they will either be malicious or extremely caring. the one that is indebtedly sorry and goes out of thier way to prove it is a keeper.

Answer 4

To me it depends on how the trust was broken. Did he cheat on you once or did you find out about him cheating with 15 other women? Was it a one time thing or was it an affair? Was it a lie? I think trust can be gained back but it might come down to do you really want to trust that person again. You can only trust them again if they are willing to change and if you can honestly forgive and forget.

Answer 5

sure you can, but first you've got to deal with the problem that caused the lack of trust in the first place.

i'm assuming your man slept with someone else. so why did he do that? is it from lack of love for you, not enjoying sex with you, or he's just not ready to commit to one person, ro something else entirely. you need to work this out.

then when you know the problem you can work on a solution. many people don't even get this far and just accept the person back and then they get upset when they cheat again. find a solution to the problem and then you'll be much more likely to trust and move your relationship on to another level.

i wish you all the best, coz relationships are worthwhile and if you've already invested time and energy then you deserve to see if you can make it work. good on you for trying.

Answer 6

Yes! With all assurance, yes. Coincidentally, my church just held a marriage series, perhaps u would like to check out the recorded services. I'm not sure if you can get a copy of the cd and book, but even if you cant just take a look at the services. Lesson 8 and lesson 9, do check it out. Should be useful.
http://www.chc.org.sg/english/video_sermons/index.cfm
dont click on those with small boxes or chinese words.

Even if you're not a christian i hope you'll be of an open heart enough to take a look at it, it really helps.

Answer 7

I do believe that if there is a friendship and a love established and a willingness to work it out , yes but if someone cheats by sleeping with someone else then no, there will always be doubt, speak from experience and i loved her very much but i couldn't change that doubt it eats you up and its the first thing you think of if there is ever a thought of mistrust

Answer 8

I think that rebuilding the trust is entierly up to you. If you feel that you can trust this person again after what he/she did then it's up to you. Keep your gaurd up and let them know you're not going to be ran over again! Watch your back at every move, and never let him/her hide anything!!!

Answer 9

of course u can,evryone makes mistakes,no one is always right or perfect..give people chance to change or improve if they r really sincere n honest.Be nice to evryone n life will b great.U do not know,it may b ur time one day n then u will hope or expect others to trust u again or forgive u.Life is very short.Be happy n good always.Its the soul that should be saved in d end,remember this.

Answer 10

depends on what happened in the relationship before you lost trust for the person.

but if you two really love each other then you will build trust again over time

Answer 11

I very much doubt it once its lost it lost you just never forget you might be able to forgive but the trust is never there again you will always be on the look out that is not trust.