Problem with one of my "friends"?

Question

How do I approach him and tell him:"Your annoying and I dont want to be your friend anymore".Without hurting his feelings.

Its been brought to my attention that my other friends also agree he's annoying.He's one of those "recently moved here...has no friends...but we befriended him and little did we know he's prick once you get to know him" type of guys.I mean seriously the guy wont shutup about himself and always thinks he's better than everyone else.He's a real jerk now.And its not like we arent making a effort to save the friendship.But he's very self-righteous.

Answer 1

One of you should talk to him alone and say it something like this-

Dude we gotta talk.
We all wanted to let you know we having some issues with how you act around us and other people. You r new here stuff so maybe you are just trying to 'fit in' but we gotta tell ya it's just not coming off right.
For starters you treat people pretty bad- always putting people down and stuff, making fun of stupid things that makes people feel bad and that ain't right. You sound like a jerk when you do that sort of thing and it is not cool.
We like you but we can't go on as a group if you can't learn to be more tolerant and have some respect for everyone around you.
Try keeping it lowkey and not talking so much, you sound like your just bragging hardcore making us all look bad about this and that and we can't all just chill and talk about other stuff.
Let us all get to know you a little at a time, aint no rush here to tell us everything in your life man just cool it down and relax. Don't try so hard and you'll click but you gotta know if you can't step back and chill with the commentary the guys aint gonna wanna hang so much with you no more.

Time to bring it down a few and kick back let the rest of group be itself too and you'll be fitting in fine.


I think your friend will understand and having just one of you talk to him makes getting the criticism alot easier and lets him save face. Give him some time to adjust a week or two should be enough and surely make a point to signal him when he steps beyond so he can pull it in. If he can't you guys did your best and can walk away knowing you did try more then most would and he will learn a hard lesson if he fails.

Answer 2

Tell his exactly what you said in your question. Then let him decide if he is willing to change.