Just wondering if any guys out there had any advice on how I could help cheer my depressed hubby, aside from sex or sex-related activities (which he may not even be interested in...) He doesn't seem to know what he wants/needs, I thought maybe some other guys might be able to give me some insight or ideas. Many thanks!
2006-10-03 17:33:00 · 10 answers · asked by Giovanni 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anti-depressants do bad things to him, the VA darn near OD'd him on Wellbutrin and he was a walking vegetable, and w/o any support or anything....he has a deep distrust within the psychiatric field and is a "fixer" so group therapy is out.
2006-10-03 17:38:51 · update #1
You say he's a fixer. That right there, I believe, is your answer! Start letting him fix things. If he won't talk to you about what's really bugging him, let him fix little stuff in your life. If you have a small tiff with your mom or a co-worker, tell him about it and then ask what he thinks, even if the problem is already resolved, he'll feel useful.
You can also do this with physical activities. Ask him to help you plant a tree in your yard, so you can both feel useful together. Loosen the faucet so it leaks and ask him to fix it.
These will all temporarily make him feel better. But during those times when he's feeling good or positive is when you can start REALLY talking. Ask him about his day, tell him about yours, keep it light and let him direct where the conversation is going. You know him best, you can do this!
2006-10-04 05:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, find out what is bringing him down, and help him find the positive side to it. I suffer from depression and can't take anti-depressants either. Not much that someone else can do other than listen and love and support. Depression is hard on everyone. When he is in a good mood, do things that he enjoys or wants to do, but don't neglect yourself.
2006-10-03 17:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many good meds out there...if one did not work, there are others that might. You cannot "cheer him up" he has a problem. Take him to another doctor, tell the doc that he has had a bad reaction to one medication and ask the doctor what to do. This is a medical problem, it will not pass, you cannot cheer him up with sex or sports or friends or whatever. You need to be his helper right now. it doesn't matter what he "wants" you take him to the doctor.
2006-10-03 17:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Evan, unhappy mate, batsmen enable DD down, my spouse & son have been helping DC, being from Delhi, I had my hopes extreme, with such remarkable batting line-up yet all of them, left it to one yet another, different than Colly, who confirmed DD, what they ignored final time, whilst they did not use his centers. DD had subject of riches, with Vettori, they chanced on the stability they have been lacking & Collingwood did his bits brilliantly, to make his place everlasting yet Gambhir did a detrimental activity, would not look waiting for the activity & protecting Vettori on the sidelines, huge mistake, with the style of style he's in, he could have performed all of the fits, considering his arrival and openers-- Sehwag & Gambhir could have caught mutually, whilst they're international class, representing Delhi & India, Gambhir enable himself down, in this a/c too, Warner could have come at no.3. DD performed too undesirable, to deserve a place interior the Semis yet adequate moping, we could back MI & Sachin now, to triumph over the IPL 3 summit & with Tharoor long gone, we could wish Modi might too, great undertaking is few of the Indian stalwarts are additionally coming in style, i.e. Dhoni, Rohit Sharma,Raina etc, so check out the bigger photograph-- T-20 international cup, stable luck to team India now, considering DD is long gone !!!!!
2016-10-01 22:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you remember your first date? Try to recapture that tonight, take him out and do the same things you did that first night. Try and dress that same way. It will remind him that he married a beautiful and loveing woman who is always there for him, if he wants to talk, let him talk, if not fine..just try to do that and I bet it will pull him out of his funk. Be sure to share chocolate, it causes a rush of endorphins, that will help his mood as well.
2006-10-03 18:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by essexsrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to his favorite sporting event. Let him hang out with the fellas, get him an IPOD. If all else fails, try a threesome. It always works.
2006-10-03 17:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find the things that he like's: His favorite meal, movie, so on... then just let him know that you love him and be there for him. depression comes and goes and he just needs someone there with him
2006-10-03 17:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Evan C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a sporting event for his favorite sport or something...
2006-10-03 17:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by NDK35 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wellbutrin
2006-10-03 17:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by greg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to rid himself of his girl friend.......
2006-10-03 17:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by popeye 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋