about his other two than yours' he buys our son things everyonce in awhile at first our relationship was just sex now since my son was born he wants to get married and move in together, iam confused about this whole thing I don't know if he still loves his wife he only calls me if I don't call; him for awhile I feel like he thinks he has to stick around if I don't call him for awhile he calls me asks me questions like do u still love me? he really does nothing for us, what is he afaid of? he says are u trying to find someelse when he knows Iam busy, he keeps his personal life secret , do you think his ex- wife knows about me and our son? my son hasn't even met his kids or his mom , he has only met his
sister, he says he needs to take our son to see his family but he doesn't say If I can go, he is so sercetive, I have so many questions please help!!!
2006-10-03 16:59:39 · 6 answers · asked by Tonia G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
then he says lets' have another baby !!
2006-10-03 17:31:25 · update #1
Doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you.
Do yourself a favor and leave him alone & start a better life for yourself.
Don't forget to see a lawyer about child support.
2006-10-03 17:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly wouldn't expect to go visit his 'other' family. Cover your @ss like he's going to up and get back together with his ex. It's plain smart. Screw what he wants, what do you want? Why did he get divorced in the first place? Is he a stand up guy? Is he a great dad, but a lousy husband? Would there be an improvement in your life if you kept up an intimate relationship with him? What does he bring to the table? I wouldn't nag him about it, but when the opportunity presents itself (your son's birthday perhaps) offer to include his other children as guests. Don't push, just keep suggesting it when a relevent event or opportunity arises, then let him take the lead. It doesn't sound like you love him, more that you're used to him and a little attached more due to your son than anything he offers you. Lots of luck.
2006-10-03 17:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would hold off on getting married. its always a good idea and try to have both parents around the child. But its not "always" best for them to live together. The secrecy, and not coming around are some red flags. Flags i would have to have fixed before i considered moving on. You realize you are thinking of settling down with someone you know little about. You dont even know the extent of his relationship with his ex, or anyone else. i would not feel right about anyone that wasnt crazy about their child. And i dont mean "buying things" anyone can do that. I could buy your kid something. "So what"
2006-10-03 17:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
counseling? maybe?
I would suggest that you call him and set up a meeting (somewhere public) and calmly discuss (slowly) each issue you have. (get a baby sitter)
Listen to his non verbal reactions as well as his verbal responses. You may find out that he is flat out lieing just by not divulging all to you. But give him the opprotunity to answer these questions for you. Then you will know what the next question is- That is stay or go?
2006-10-03 17:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look after yourself and your child. At the very least, you need to file for child support. He is such a fake. You should in no way let him show any shame for your child or you. If he does. he is a very low form of life. There are no secrets when you have given birth to his child. Tell him to go blow
2006-10-03 17:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds F-ed up to me....are u sure he is divorced?
2006-10-03 17:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by !kyradarkmoon! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋