is he gay?

Question

My husband is often angry and yells all the time. He blows up for no apparent reason. I feel like maybe he feels guilty inside so he reacts with anger. He wants to have anal sex with me and he has said more than once that he wants me to "f*ck him in the ***" which makes me really uncomfortable. Do you think he might be gay or is this "normal" heterosexual desire???

Answer 1

GGAAYYY!!
Good luck!

Answer 2

His behavior and requests would bother me as well. You do not have to do anything you don't want to do -- remember that. Don't let him bully you into having anal sex.

I don't know whether he is homosexual. But his behavior is questionable in the since that something is going on that needs to be discussed between he two of you. Try talking to him when he's in a good mood. Ask him why has he been angry lately and why does he feel the need to have anal sex?
If the behavior continues or gets worse, I suggest you talk to a professional. Good Luck!

Answer 3

It's really hard to say. I personally say it is. However, physically the prostate is located around his anus. It is actually directly stimulated by going inside of it. So.......from a pleasure stand point, he may want that. BUT it seems very gay to me.

And as far as wanting to do that to you......my boyfriend has asked me. I think it has to do with pornos.....those chicks take it up the back and make it LOOK like it is the best thing since butter on toast. So, maybe men think that they want to make their women moan and swoon like that, being completely oblivious to the fact that the movie was most likely written and DIRECTED by a MAN....and that the woman......no matter how REAL it seemed, was only "ACTING".

Well anyway, this has been an ongoing debate for me. I came right out and told my boyfriend that it seems like gay stuff to me and I wanted no part of it and that it makes me kind of look at him differently. He said that he was only interested because he had an experience with this chick years back who wanted him AND his cousin, and told them that she wanted 'it' in 'both' places.

He was in his early twenties, and that was his first time having a woman who wanted him AND someone else, as well as wanting 'it' put 'there'. He said she seemed to enjoy it so much that he just wanted to do that with me to see if it would please me as well. (He seemed to think it was like a generic reaction or something.) Well, I politely told him HELL NO. As well as telling him that she was a w-h-o-r-e. And I asked him what BESIDES that was the appeal. He said that initially it was tighter than the 'usual' place. But he did admit that with time, it lost the elasticity and was loose. I also made him recall that it HAD to stink.

After that blunt conversation......he dropped it all together. We get along JUST FINE now. And I had to SHOW him that the 'usual' place satisfies him just fine. If it ain't broke, don't try to fix it!

Seriously, there is nothing wrong with exploring and being sexually adventurous, but if you aren't cool with it, then it shouldn't even be up for discussion.

Answer 4

You OBVIOUSLY said "No". No wonder he is angry all the time!

All kidding aside, search a good sex website, you will find that this is "normal" heterosexual behavior. I didn't believe it either, but I searched google.com and found it to be "normal". Men can orgasm via anal penatration. Maybe in the past he had a girlfriend that would do this to him? Call a sex expert or psychiatrist to back my answer or if you have more questions. I am sure they can give you WAY better advice than us "Internet Wackos"!

Good Luck!

Answer 5

From what you've said, it's not easy to tell. A little extra freaky sex does NOT make a man gay if he wants that sex from a woman. It's gay if he wants a man to do it with him. There was a time when men who wanted blowjobs were called gay because blowjobs were "what gay guys did."

However, he might be hiding something if you find him pretending that you're a guy.

Answer 6

Is he yelling and angry because you refuse to perform or recieve anal sex or is he that way in general? My ex husband enjoyed it when I did it to him but was by no means gay, he wasnt attracted to men at all, but enjoyed it when it was an experience he shared with me. So it does not necessarily mean he is gay, jus a lil freaky maybe. But still it is not good to do something you are not comfortable with.

Answer 7

Okay I was going to say that this was perfectly normal behavior until you said that he wants you to do him in the anus also..sorry girl but your man is GAY...run away fast!!!!!!!!!!! no heterosexual man would want to be did in the ***!!

Answer 8

Plenty of men would like to engage in anal sex with women but I'm not sure if plenty would like anal penetration done on them...

Maybe it's some kind of fetish he has. It doesn't mean that he's gay.

Answer 9

there is definitely some issues that would make me teeter that same thought . i am heterosexual and i do not wish for anything to go up the well you know........ my suggestion is to sit down and ask him if he feels like being with you is not a satisfying relationship, and ask him if he has ever desired to be with another man , that might help you both come to some new light of thought

Answer 10

This is not normal behavior. If this makes you feel uncomfortable, don't do it. Making love/sex should make you feel great. Not dirty.
Its a good possibility that he may be gay. I'm sorry to tell you this.
DONT do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. And leave him if he hurts you. That may be next if you tell him NO that you wont do it that way. Please be careful of rape to. That would be next.
Take care.

Answer 11

I wouldn't call it normal.
Angry and yelling is a problem though, usually derived from some pent up issue he's dealing with, which might be some homo-sexual problem he can't get a grip on.
Don't give in though if you don't want anything to do with anal on yourself or his he should at least respect that.
You're his wife not his love toy!