Am I fearful of close relationship?any solution?

Question

i longed for relationship nwith opposite sex.but when relationship developed.then i become possessessive.its not easy for me to trust my partner.so i become excited too much sometime.
feed back welcome , i want long lasting relationship

Answer 1

Posessivness can be hard on a relationship. Try starting with honesty- you were pretty good at admitting your faults here to the forum. If you start dating a girl sit her down and say sweety I gotta be honest about some things with you ...and say it.

Then ask her if she can help you work on being a better man. You are the one who needs to chnage but she can help you by talking to you, making some simple ground rules of relationships such as always talk if something is bothering you, always admit when you feel hurt or scared by actions made between you.

You know you have trust issues and I think the previous poster pointed out they may be from insecurity and fear. I would gather that sounds about right as well. You are good guy trying to find a woman and when you do find one you get scared to death she'll walk away or meet a better guy then you.

So first relax- a girl isn't going to want to date you if she hasn't seen something she likes about who you are. Dating isn't car shopping where we stroll around teh mega lot and say hmmm this one's nice take it for a test drive then park it and walk a few more rows and go hmmm let's try this one it's red and looks sporty.
A woman chooses to date a man because he has some quality in him she is attracted too, maybe it's your smile, could be your humor, could be she just thinks your hot. But that is just the beginning, next comes talking finding out what people think about and how they see life, how life has affected them, choices they made good and bad. Finally we start with deciding inside ourselves and with each other if what we want in life and who we are is a good match that an last. Love starts with those small moments and builds up to decisions about will it work, are you in love or will you drift apart because not enough things clicked for you both.

But for any of it to even start you have to trust nature, so far nature's done a darn fine job of getting the right people together so they can decide what to do.

So get on the ride hand over your ticket and trust that the ride stays on the tracks- keep your hands and feet inside the ride at all times and buckle up. No one gets hurt too often by love but you have to trust the ride before you can trust anyone you decide to ride with.

Trust is key but you can start with small keys and work up from there slowly until you give a girl the key to your heart because that is the key that does hurt when lost.

Answer 2

Be up front with your partner about who you are. It is not possessiveness that you get, it is insecure. But the real question is what are you insecure about? Are you good looking? Have you been cheated on before? Sometimes when things start getting hectic in a relationship we all go crazy, talking to a professional might help.

Answer 3

trust isn't easy 2 give 2 people if u have been hurt but u have 2 learn 2 control your own emotions. Being overly possessive can hurt not only your friend but yourself 2

Answer 4

You need to change, and stop being possessive, be nice, trusting, put that wall down that you have put..get into a girl that is also looking for a relationship...