2006-10-03 16:55:12 · 6 answers · asked by Little Wifey 5 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Love is energy - money does not buy it and sex does not guarantee it. Sex is not all there really is. If sex is about the yearning of the body rather than the heart pain is sure to follow.
2006-10-03 16:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, expert on the evolution of love, the answer is emphatically no.
She initially sets the sex drive as separate from attraction, and from attachment. Each she has associated via MRIs with a different region of the brain and a different neurotransmitter.
However, in a lecture she gave in Indianapolis last week she feels that love itself is not an emotion-- it is a drive. It isn't the result of chemical interaction, it CREATES the chemicals, just as the sex drive does.
We are fabulously complex, we have incredibly complicated social lives and part of it is because of this capacity, this drive, to love and to love in different ways.
Just think-- if sex is all you really experience, you still have two thirds of the good stuff to go! Think of how wonderful it will be when you finally find someone who hits all three regions!
2006-10-04 00:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by almethod2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer this question one must bring in the age old thoughts about EVOLUTION and how it may link us to the our ancestors of the wild. First of all, sex comes in very handy for breeding. As man is part of the animal world. Female being the WO in man. The one that usually decides whom she will bed down with, this makes her the one whom decides what genes get passed on and those that don't. Face it , a woman knows if she will sleep with a man ,or not,as soon as she sees him. The man on the other hand doesn't know if he is going to get lucky or not.
Love has nothing to do with it.We like to think it does,but researchers will tell you not so.
The female is looking instinctively to find the strongest,meanest most Verile male possible so that she can bear strong offspring ,that will survive all that nature may throw at them.In earlier times that was very important. We might think not so much today ,but those instinctive drives of yesteryear are still there.Some say that is why men and woman cheat allot. To get as much diversity in sperm as possible to insure good stock and survivability in the species.This is where lust comes in, it helps to propagate the animal called man an WO.
Then later,much later comes love. The first love is how we love what we do to each other during the act of sex.Then we decide if we are compatible and will put up with the others shortcomimgs as we see them. If we can work it out , and the sex is worth the work and wait . Well then we are shurely inlove and stay that way hopefully until death do us part, or lust for others will do us apart.
With out sex there would be no love, atleast in the begining of a relationship. There are many couples after having a child or two go on most of thier lives with little or no sex at all. and it is the love that they have in each other that keeps them together. ie , they love each others company. Thank you very little. Now go and love each other. Try to remember to always go after your wants and desires. Your needs will take care of them selves.
No virginia sex is not all there is , but it sure helps allot. But that is just one mans outlook. I need a WO myself right now. any takers.
2006-10-04 04:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Praynographer ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not mix up great sex with love. They are two distinct and separate entities. Sex is to reproduce the species only. It is not love. Love is something else. Sex can improve with real love and intimacy. If you are in lust, it is not love. If someone is bad to you, you do not want sex with them unless you are delusional and are using them too, or if you mistakingly think that a great orgasm will make the partner stay or change.
2006-10-03 23:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that love is real. for some it is hard to come by and others it is not. you can have sex w/ a person and not be emotionally attached. i think i understand where you are coming from, i have been hurt many times and yet i still believe in love.
2006-10-04 00:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by kimberly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is experienced in more diverse forms. A mum loves her newborn, a kid his puppy, we love our families, lovers love each other.. it is experienced in all its richness and complexity and beauty...
Sex , on the other hand, is a powerful erotic force that is experienced in its strength and passion...it is the glue that holds couples together...and love is experienced in raw, exciting, climactic heights when sex keeps it alive...
Sometimes when love is non existent or obliterated or unclear, sex becomes dominant.. and can mask itself as love.
Othertimes, sex leads to love, when it endures the ravages of time...
I think love and sex , or sex in love are the 2 best things life can offer!!
2006-10-04 00:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by minzi_606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋