why some r more gifted than others?

Question

I have a younger sister who is only 2 yrs younger to me,she is always been liked and loved by all of my family members,becos she is very beautiful than me and bubbly,so when i was young too all my relatives only pamper her in front of me but they dont bother me at all.At many times she have been praised by my parents too in front of me comparing me with her that she can do things well .i started envying and sometimes that itself made me be more shy to talk with others and inferiority complex developed within me.She was able to ride bike without anyones help but i was scared to do it.she was bold in talking with others but i was shy,so she was more attractive becoz of all that she got.sometimes i feel why i was born ,and now iam married and my husband too loves only my sister and always compares me with her that she is good than me.i really started hating everything.but she was not good in studies i only made her get her degree .how can i be like by all than my sister??????????/

Answer 1

we cant all be dopes like you

Answer 2

Instead of trying to be like your sister, why not develop the qualities that make u different from her? There must be some things that u are better at than she is so focus on those. It's unfortunate that u were treated that way when u were a child and it can have impact on your self image. Just remember that u are now an adult with the choice to work on your self image. Once u improve that, u will find that u don't need anyone's approval to make u feel good because u will already know.

As far as your husband is concerned, he is an a** for comparing u to your sister and his behavior is very inappropriate. I suggest u confront him on that and let him know that comparing u to your sister is very hurtful as u are not her and never will be.

Answer 3

Everyone has gifts. Some gifts need nurturing. So if you haven't figured out yet what yours are then sit down and write a list of your assets and the good things you've done and have accomplished then pat yourself on the back for all those things. Sometimes the gifts are outward and bold and sometimes they are inward and sweet and gentle. figure out what you do well, do it, enjoy it, put your heart and soul into doing it. And praise yourself for them. You and your maker know you shine. So don't let comparisons get you down, and ignore those comparisons. You have inner beauty. God only made beauty and you have it all..

Answer 4

Your sister is not "better" than you, you only feel that way because you have let her and the rest of your family get to you. Meaning your family has told you all this time that she is better than you, she is prettier than you Blah Blah Blah. First things first, you are who you are and nothing is going to change that. If your husband thinks your sister is so awesome ask him why didn't he marry her then. Don't let your family drag you down because as long as you believe that she is better than you then she will be. You need to learn to have respect to yourself and stop letting other people tell you what you are.

Answer 5

Stop trying to things she does. Do something you enjoy and love. No one can compare how much you enjoy doing something.

Once you stop competing against her you will see and find things you do she can't, find passions in life she may never hold. Live your life not hers, enjoy things for you not because someone else enjoys them.

Live for you, Love yourself, Do all things in life with as much of yourself as you want. When you do these things you shine in your own way that no one can overshadow.

Until you stop looking at others and look within you at your gifts, your talents, your heart filled with love then you will see talent and beauty comes from inside.

There are things about who you are that make you unique find them, grown them, love them because they are the amazing and wonderful things part of you.
Your sister is who she is- find yourself first not last.

Answer 6

Its because you've already decided when you were younger that she is better than you. If you want to look good, try getting make lessons, and dress yourself better, go to a gym. focus on what you have and not what your sister has and what you don't have. Nurture what you do have, improve yourself and stop focusing on the negative.

Answer 7

That's life....... You also are God's child and therefore a special person too. Such thoughts are damaging and serve only to bring your heart down to a lonely place.....Do your best daily and don't compare yourself to her, or anyone else, even if others do.

Answer 8

Tell your husband to go with your sister and well like I always say THIS WORLD IN NOT FAIR, something similar happens to me , my brother is also 2 years younger than I am. I guess there always have to be problems weather you want them or not. Try to be your self, and your true friends and relatives will like you for who you are.

Answer 9

your sister probably has more confidence. You need to work on yours. stick with things you are good at, and be great at them. that will help. Let things go, as far as the comparisons. You will never beat anyone at everything, and she is family. You most importantly wont ever be as good at being her, as she is, because you are YOU!. To my experience people that are beautiful, and get things easily, are usually great to hang out with, and be friends with because they are happy go lucky, and fun, and carefree. But they rarely have the loyalty, or work ethic, or the mental drive, that people such as yourself develope. It will all average out.

Answer 10

Karma

Answer 11

We are all different. Some are prettier, slimmer, and so on, but that doesn't mean that to yourself- that u are ugly. Some people think I'm ugly, but I'm think I'm kind of cute, when I'm showered and dressed, and even undressed, I'm cute. CheerUp- she can't b terrific at EVERYTHING!