we've tried everything to get pregnant, are we doing something wrong?

Question

my fiance and i have been trying to start a family for 2 months now. I've taken prenatal vitamins, and have done everything textbook like charting bbt , cm, and ovulation times. he is also taking vitamins and we are eating healthy. We have sex missionary style , and i elevate my hips right after sex for 30 minutes. Is there anything else i can do?

we are getting married on the 14th of this month, and we are able to give this child a secure home. we love children and just want a family of our own.

Answer 1

First of all, don't take to heart everyone's criticism about you not being married yet. I did the same thing. Heck, you are pregnant for nine months. I planned it so I was four months pregnant before our wedding day. I wasn't showing yet, and the morning sickness was over. We did struggle at first trying though. My problem was that I was very over weight. If that is an issue with you, it does play a role in your quest.

Try going to www.babyzone.com I use that website all of the time. You can chart your menstrual cycles on there. Chart everything for that matter. Then they will send you reminders about when you are ovulating, when your period is coming, they will even remind you to make sure you have ample supplies for your period. Like I said, I just love it. There is a lot of good advice on there too about everything you need to know. You can keep track of everything right up to delivery and afterwards. Check it out girlfriend. Awesome links that can help you and direct you where you need to go for more answers. There are also natural things you can take to enhance your and your husband's fertility on top of prenatal suppliments.

It is true what they say, the stress of trying so hard to make a baby can be the exact effect that is preventing you from conceiving. Try planning a nice, romantic evening out during your next ovulation. Go out to a nice dinner, drinks, movies, dancing, whatever "does it" for both of you. The point is to have fun and relax. Enjoy each other. Then go home, or wherever and do the deed. Practise techniques that you have aquired thus far through your search. Remember.....R-E-L-A-X!!!

Try doing it doggy-style with your hips up high, and your chest down close to the bed. This way you will have the slant you need for the direction of the sperm to go. Then ofcourse, stay like that for a bit to enable the process to take place.

When your husband ejaculates, have him, just before push it in as far as he can get it, up tight against your cervix so that it goes directly into your uterus with strength...ya know what I mean.

When you're doing it "missionary-style", try doing it with your hips already propped up on a few pillows. Get them as high as you can without your husband falling off. Make him do some work too, he should stay there and hold your legs way up in the air for ya.

Throughout the month, make your husband go without, so that during your ovulation, he has a big load for you. And even then, only do it once, every "other" day so that the sperm can build back up.

Don't let him wear tight jeans or underpants. Loose, loose, loose fitting clothes on lower extremities.

If you or your partner have had STD's before, that can also be what's preventing success in making a baby.

If you haven't conceived after atleast six months of trying, I would go to the doctor. Both of you. You can be checked out to make sure your uterus is a suitable environment to equip pregnancy. For him, they will check his sperm count, and make sure he isn't shooting blanks.

There are a lot of methods, techniques, or whatever you want to call them to conceive. You will find what is best for you. Keep looking for more answers.

That website I mentioned, check it out. Talk to other woman, mother to be's like yourself. They could offer you some good, helpful advice.

I wish you and your husband all the absolute best of luck. It will happen when you least expect it. Try not to be hard on yourself when and if your next period comes around again. Just keep trying. It will all be worth it when you look down at your sweet baby angel in the delivery room.

God Bless!!!

Answer 2

If you have ony been trying for 2 months you need to keep trying honey. It takes as long as 6 months to get pregnant. With my first it was 4 months with my second it was about 2 months. It takes and while. Dont get discouraged. The best part about getting pregnant is doing it all the time! Try not to think about it and you'll be pregnant before you know it. You doing everything right. Excpet elevating the hips is a myth and so is the missionary style thing too. Just go crazy and have fun!

Answer 3

Assuming you are a younger couple, 2 months is an incredibly short amount of time to begin worrying about infertility. Don't get discouraged, but it can take up to a year for healthy couples to concieve!

When trying to become pregnant timing is absolutely everything! You must get to know your cycle and learn when you are most fertile. Having intercourse around the time of ovulation (1-2 days prior is best) will greatly increase your chances of becoming pregnant.

Each woman is different, but you can actually keep track of your menstrual cycle and learn when you are likely to ovulate by charting your temperature in the morning using a basal thermometer. You can learn how to chart your tempertures from many online sources for free. I also highly recommend a book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. This book has a wealth of information every woman should know about her body whether or not she is trying to conceive. If that seems like too much work you can always purchase over the counter ovulation predictors.

I wish you the best of luck ... and who knows, by the time you read my answer to this question you could be pregnant already!!

Answer 4

Thin about it Max. The egg lives 24 hours! Thats it. Whats that, 24 out of 720 hours a month.
Not part of your question and just an opinion here that you didnt ask for but how long you and fiance been going together? A baby REALLLLLLLLLLY can strain a relationship.
Maybe do it God's way, get married then have a baby. Sometimes theres rhyme behind His reason.
Me and my hubby raised our kids from our first marriages, been married 17 years, sometimes hell 'cuz of being in a blended family. Now, they're out of college, out of the house and at first I was sad, but me and my hubby have romance and all kinds of those good things that we couldnt have to start (not for long anyway).
Kids are wonderful. Just make sure you can really enjoy them.
And as for your question, really, relax is the best thing you can do. A lot of people who have a hard time and finally decide to adopt end up pregnant right away. Relaxing or God? You decide. And best of luck to you.

Answer 5

Well, it's not 100% possible to get pregnant even when all the conditions are right. If you aren't still pregnant in a year, that's when you can see a fertility specialist. If anything, just relax and not think too much about getting pregnant. Make sex fun. Have sex like every other day.

It sounds like you are doing everything right, and it should happen soon.

Answer 6

I'll send you a diagram using stick figures. Just kidding, my son's mom and I had difficutly in conceiving, but once we just relaxed and stopped "trying", she got pregnant right away. So, I just think that sometimes, you just need to put the science and charting away and let things take it's natural course. If things don't progress the way you want in the next six months, I'd consult a fertility expert.

Answer 7

Why don't you get married for one thing. Why have a baby with someone who is your fiance? That's not a secure start for a child. Children need care 24/7 and if you're not mature enough to get married you'd better not have a baby.

Answer 8

Other than the obvious answer (get married first) I would suggest rather than just raising the hips stand on your head after. I'm not being a smart** here it really works.

That and relaxing.
as soon as you stop trying so hard it will happen.

Answer 9

I accept as true with the opposite remark. You will have to speak along with your surgeon. they realize whilst its time to refer you to an infertility professional. Mothers continually believe they may be able to supply recommendation even if they did not cross via what you are going via. Try to grin and be satisfactory. There are such a lot of matters that ought to occur for anyone individual to have youngster. People who have not had disorders, have a tendency to mention loosen up and it will occur. Really simply paintings along with your surgeon and if you do not appreciate ask questions.

Answer 10

Don't stress about it!! Then decide you are going to take a quite expensive vacation, just the two of you. About one monthe before this fabulous trip, you'll come up preggo's!! Remember, the best thing about babies is making them!!
Lots of Luck,
Mother of Three