Shes one my best friend. I tried explaining to her that cutting herself isnt resolving her problems. But she assures me that she isnt angry with anyone. She has also tried to comit suicide about 2 years ago. I didnt realize that she was doing this but I foundout 2 weeks ago she was doing this and I was shocked. What can I do to help her? I cant stand to see hurt! HELP!
2006-10-03 16:50:04 · 15 answers · asked by cat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR FRIEND. SHE NEED TO
GET SOME COUNSELING TO DEAL WHAT EVER IS GOING
ON WITH HER TO MAKE HER CUT HER SELF. SHE NEED
HELP RIGHT AWAY. BUT THAT GOOD THAT SHE HAS A
GOOD FRIEND LIKE YOU TO BE THERE FOR HER. BUT
SHE NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE ONE. OR YOU NEED
TO LET HER PARENTS OR SOMEONE KNOW WHAT GOING
ON.
2006-10-03 16:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is an outlet which people use to relieve emotional stress, not necessarily a suicide gesture yet it does mean your friend has emotional issues. Now, what to do...
Are you close to your friend's family? You should call them, they may know she does this and already have tried to help her in the past. Sometimes cutting is something people deal with their whole lives, it goes along with depression or other mental health maladies. All you can really do is be supportive to her and urge her in the right direction. She should see a psychiatrist and get some counseling, obviously, yet I know it's difficult to convince people to do something like that. So you can try to rally those closest to her and try an intervention- sometimes setting limits with them like telling them you love them, but you insist on them getting help or you cannot codepend their behavior (meaning always trying to counsel them when it's obvious they need a professional).
Otherwise, self esteem boosting....doing things to help bring out a positive self image. Try and find something they know they are good at, or is good about them...they will know if it's contrived. Often, however, if cutting is from depression or another diagnosis, trying to get through to them yourself will be next to impossible. She needs help, so don't feel guilty if you can't be the one to do that for her. Be patient and see what some of the other people in her life think. Do not be afraid to reveal her secret of cutting to a trusted family member if they don't know about it. While privacy should ultimately be respected, in this case it's too dire of a thing to let go. You sound like an excellent friend for her, she's lucky to have you.
2006-10-03 17:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur friend needs counseling urgently. Cutting herself is what? Those are just scars of her sadness that she holds. Scars that are never going to away. She is scaring herself emotionally. Get her to go to a therapist A.S.A.P. Ur friend doing this to her body is putting memories that she won't be able to get out of. She'll just look in the mirror and get flash backs. Tell her to please stop and get help. Tell her that ur by her side always.
2006-10-03 16:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
reducing is an outlet which persons use to alleviate emotional stress, now no longer continuously a suicide gesture even regardless of the undeniable fact that it does mean your buddy has emotional subjects. Now, what to do... Are you nearly your buddy's family members? you will could call them, they are going to recognize she does this and characteristic already have been given tried to help her in the past. now and lower back reducing is a few factor persons take care of their finished lives, it is going on the factor of melancholy or diverse psychological well-being maladies. All you will quite do is be supportive to her and urge her interior the splendid direction. she would be waiting to could see a psychiatrist and get some counseling, truthfully, yet I are attentive to that is complicated to cajole persons to accomplish a little factor like that. so which you will attempt to rally those closest to her and take a seem at an intervention- many situations environment limits with them like telling them you like them, even regardless of the undeniable fact which you insist on them getting help or you at the instant are not waiting to codepend their behavior (meaning consistently attempting to signify them on an analogous time because it is substantial they want an excellent). in any different case, self well worth boosting....doing concerns to help placed across out a beneficial self image. attempt to detect some factor they recognize they're properly at, or is actual approximately them...they are going to recognize no be counted if it is contrived. in lots of situations, whether, if reducing is from melancholy or another analysis, attempting to get via to them your self will in all probability be next to incredible. She demands help, so do no longer think of to blame once you may not be the only to try this for her. Be sufferer and be conscious what between the essential diverse persons in her life have faith. Do now no longer be afraid to show her secret of reducing to a depended on family members member in the event that they do no longer recognize approximately it. on an analogous time as privateness will could finally be respected, in this difficulty it is in basic terms too dire of an element of permit circulate. You sound like an intense-high quality buddy for her, she's fortunate to have you ever.
2016-12-26 08:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does need help. My daughter tried that. We have been through alot with her. I wouldn't trade her for nothing in the world. Tell your mom if you can trust her and she will know what todo. You can be her friend and help her. She really needs it. She will forgive you trust me. It will take time. Just be there for her and let your parents handle it. They will know how to brake it to her parents. If her parents don't do anything about it then tell your aprents. They will know what to do. Hang in there and just know that your tried your best. Good Luck.
2006-10-03 17:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is an abuse victum and you should talk to her and gain her confidence. She needs help and support. Self inflicted injuries are a sign of early abuse. The pain of the cutting hides the pain of the abuse. Try and get her to see professional help. Good luck and be there for her.
2006-10-03 16:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by netwiz24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cat its good that She has a friend like you! but she needs help hun your not gonna be able to give her, my brother did the same thing, there is issues shes not able or doesent want to talk to you about, if your close with her parents ide let them know, even if she gets mad at you, in the Long run once her mind is clear,she'll thank you trust me. good luck hun
2006-10-03 17:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you tell everyone around her, even if she finds out and get's mad at you...you want to keep her alive!
If she is young enough.. tell her parents to put her in a hospital for her depression!
Get her some books, keep talking to her about getting help!!
2006-10-03 16:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 you need to tell her parents. Now before it is to late. She may be just doing this for attn but she need some pchological help. Definitaly tell someone who can get her some help.
2006-10-03 16:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her help asap!!! Contact her parents,siblings,school official anyone who can get her some professional help right away.
2006-10-03 17:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋