I dont feel he will because I knew them for years and she treated him really bad but everyone one says once a cheater always a cheater how true is that and why do men cheat?
2006-10-03 16:47:32 · 17 answers · asked by pamlar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating has nothing to do with how well, or poorly the guy is treated. Many very faithful and good women get cheated on. In fact, I'd say it's more likely when they are good wives than when they're not.
If he is a cheater, he may also be a liar. Maybe she didn't treat him badly at all. How do you know? You have only heard "his" side of the story.
Your chances of him cheating on you are probably very high. You are very wise to consider that possibility.
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2006-10-03 16:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think "once a cheater always a cheater" at all. But I wouldn't make excuses for his behavior either ("she treated him really bad"). The fact that he explained his past to you means he is aware there was a problem with his character and that he is working on his honesty issues. We know he is capable of cheating when things are bad but now we need to know if he will cheat when things are good! I think that someone who has a history of infidelity needs to pay closer attention to managing it out of his life more than someone who has no prior experience. And the bottom line is that only he can do that. I think you have to be fair and not jump to conclusions by looking for infidelity in your relationship. But here is a simple question: if someone were paroled from prison for bank robbery, would you hire the person to run your bank? Good luck.
2006-10-04 00:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Danger Penny Robinson. Once a cheater, that urge will always be a possible problem. You could be walking in to a mind field. You must be careful. You're marrying someone and you know both of them. Even worse! Did you see the abuse first hand?
You might want to pass on this one. Fish in the sea baby, fish in the sea.
2006-10-04 01:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will....because I think he will. I think most people have an urge to cheat at some point in their life / relationship. It's just easier for those who have already been down that path to do it again. It's sort of like the barrier is already broken. But who knows....if he has been faced with the hurt that it causes, maybe he has learned a lesson and won't do it. But call me a cynic and don't wait up.
2006-10-03 23:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by stillsweetp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we dont cheat we go astray 4 a while just 2 taste juice even god probably got tired of water ya know, and its not always true he had reasons 2 cheat u said he got treated bad , do u feel that u would do the same , i think not so go in with your heart open and give him all of u not half.
2006-10-03 23:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things you left out. Did she cheat on him as well? If both were doing it, who cheated first? If he was the first to cheat or the only one to cheat, chances are he will cheat again. I base this on personal experiences. Cheating isn't always about sex. Cheating can be about power, ego booster, ect.... As to why men cheat, they think that us women will be none the wiser. Think about it, if a woman cheats on her man with someone that is bigger than her man, will he figure it out?? You bet. But a man just has to keep his secret and he has to hide evidence.
2006-10-03 23:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt trust him.. sorry. thereis no excusefor cheating on a spouse. If you dont like the situation your in, then leave and get divorced. Cheating isn't the answer. The statistics are high for cheating and cheating again. Look into it
2006-10-04 00:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by pink9364 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may or may not have established this as a fall back pattern,just keep your eyes open during rough patches when old habits are tempting.SOME men cheat even if they "love"you due to a notch on the belt,insecurity,lust,
opportunity,boredom.GoodLuck
2006-10-03 23:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personaly think that if he cheated on her with u and just with u, i mean just once. and u know him for years and u sure about him then u should go for it. Just keep looking for signs or something. If he loves u he wont cheat on u. dont treat him like she did.
Good luck!
2006-10-04 00:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are that he will cheat again. It dont necessarily mean that he will. He may be one of the small % of those that dont repeat cheating. You are marrying the guy so you must trust him and I wish you the best of everything.
2006-10-03 23:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋