my husbands ex-wife is in the military????????

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we have not seen his son in over 2 years. She just recently returned from deployment and legally we were supposed to have his son (so says the divorce). We do not know where he lives and we dont have a phone number. the only number we have is a pager/cell (same number) and she will not return the pages. she has made it clear that she wants to teminate my husbands rights to his son. PLEASE if anyone has any info on what we can do to get the rights that should be inforced. We have contacted the military and they say it is a civil matter we went to the courts and they say their is nothing that they can do. We contacted her commanding officer and her attitude was just as stank as the exes.........We have stacks of money orders and checks that have come back in the mail cause we dont know where she is. We were told to send them and when they come back just save them. What if anything can we do??

The reason we know she jsut returned is......my friends uncle was contacted by the ex and a few special people helped us out in that department

Fisrt I would like to thank all who answer for your POSITIVE fedback. I want to just say that my husband and I were the sole providers for our son until we started to have children. At that point our sons mother became bitter after our marrage and the birth of our first child. She took our son away one day while visiting him while he was in our custody. Since she is his natural mother there was nothing we could do at the time. We have tried lawyers and most just ask us to raise the amount of support that she receives but that has only led to NOTHING. So again thanks for your fedback

Answer 1

First off I am sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time getting the boy, but obviously the mother doesn't want your husband to have contact for some reason. There maybe many reasons to it but you will never no. At this point I hate to say this, but there is nothing you can do about this because if the courts have given her rights to the boy and making the rules as well for the visitation rights then there is nothing to really make her keep up on the rights that she has fully given him. She can and will cancel anytime she likes and there is nothing the courts can do about it. Not even you (I'm sorry!) If the son hasn't tried to reach his dad then that only means that he is not interested in seeing him either. See really this is just not the mother that has to do with this this could be the son as well.

The only thing you can do at this moment is pray for him and pray that he remains safe and have a good life. That is really all that can be done at this time. Far as all of the money orders go and put them in the bank and hope that one day he (the son) will come around to speaking to his father again or whatever the problem might be.

For you and your husband I will pray to God for you that you will have peace in your journey to find your son.
Peace be with your from our Lord Jesus Christ.

Answer 2

Just leave them alone. Loss of contact with children is a foreseeable outcome in every divorce. So what else do you expect? Does he pay enough of child and spousal support that can allow his ex wife and his child to reside in a close proximity to him? No, he doesn't. Otherwise, she wouldn't get deployed God knows where. As for the officers turning away your demands, I bet you are the one who were behind those with all your attitude (!). Normally, officers are cooperative in such matters. As fo the "rights", you have none. You're not going to call the cops on her. Although with your attitude, it would be no surprise if you will. Leave that kid alone! Whatever point you are trying to prove to your present husband and to his ex-wife, the kid doesn't need all this stress in his life that YOU are trying to create. (Yes, it's that obvious.)

Answer 3

Get a lawyer!

Answer 4

Unfortunately, you'll more than likely have to hire an attorney.
Good luck