i am confused i need help.
2006-10-03 16:41:04 · 13 answers · asked by brittenygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Losing a child and losing custody is caused by more then dating a pedophile. You're question can't be answered based on the limited details you've provided, so be honest with anyone responding on Yahoo answers. Any speculation or even previous accounts of inappropriateness with a minor aren't always cause of action for removing a minor in your care. You''ve got bigger issues, more than you have stated, so few can be of real consequence.
So.. since I cant' offer any concrete advice, what the fudge are you thinking dating any even remotely accused or inferred or suspected of engaging in such activity. My God... be a parent,, please,, so many ... so little time,, god help ya.. you need it.. you know you do..! You're more about proclaiming innocence (written above) then your own child,, and that's pretty fudging PATHETIC!
What are you thinking?,, oh,, darn, you aren't!!!, Don't reproduce anymore!
2006-10-03 17:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to ask yourself is what is your priority: having a son or having a man in your life (who is an alleged sex offender)....I work in social services and all too often see women who date men who say they were wrongly accused but then years later find out these men then sexually abused their children. something happened to cause these charges...if he is a convicted sex offender, call the polic station for a report......but if your child was removed b/c you chose a man over your child, this will seriously damage your child long term....they will always wonder why they weren't as important to their mother as her boyfriend....
And get yourself into therapy to help you identify why men like him feel they can prey on you...what message are you sending to men? therapy will go into this topic
2006-10-03 16:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Erving Princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Soooo...you know this person didn't "do it", why? Because he told you?
The reason you're confused is this manipulating sex offender got in your head, and now you've lost your son. Sounds like you have to make a choice. If you truly don't know which to choose, you need more help than you think.
2006-10-03 16:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your kids should be more important than any man in your life. even their dad. men sometimes leave but your child is your forever. lady you will never own a man. how do you know the sex offender didn't do it? were you there? please make sure this man is in therapy and don't be fooled by love no matter what love finds a way to go right back through the door it came in. be careful and try to get that relationship going with your son. he is the most important man in you life
2006-10-03 16:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure what you are confused about. my children are my world and no one would ever come between that. so what if he didn't do it, it is still out there that he did, and this will not only follow him but you as well. if this man was any man at all, he would understand what is happening and if he knew you had your child taken away, he would pull himself out of the situation no matter what feelings are involved, the children should always come first... they are the new generation and we have to teach them right!!! you need to get rid of this guy and do the right thing and get your baby back and reassure him that this will never happen again and that no man is worth loosing your child over. then seek some professional help to get you through this time.
2006-10-03 16:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by firegal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a convicted sex offender, he did it. He may be telling you he did not, but I can guarantee you that the court system does not convict these people easily or by mistake. You have made a terrible mistake and should be horribly ashamed to have put your own selfish needs and wants over protecting your son and being a good mom. I feel sorry for your son who needs to have a mom and who had no choice in what has happened to him.
2006-10-03 16:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by zpie 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your children should ALWAYS come before any man. Leave him and get your child back. You will find someone else. Even if they didnt do it you still need to leave it alone some reason they were accused and if it wasnt proven then how did you child get taken. Your son is your blood and your life, you have to take care of him before anyone.
2006-10-03 16:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what the sex offender guy means to you, the kid is still your son. if it mean you ever seeing him again or not, it is your responsibility to neglect what it is YOU want, because ultimately, you job as his mother is your most important duty. your personal agenda is irrelevant. you have a moral obligation to him, as you brought him into the world. to neglect him like this, no matter what the circumstances, would make you remiss.
2006-10-03 16:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care if the person did it or not.....if you have a child you should protect your child and stay away from this person.
There should be no confusion on your part.....your child or your social life.
2006-10-03 16:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't bring the man around the children...how do you know he didnt do it?? cuz he told you so??? and you would put your children in a place to find out hah?
2006-10-03 17:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by chereeder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋