we got together during the summer, but i broke up with him becasue i never saw him cuz he was alwayz on vacation, but now were back in school and i cant stop thinking about him, but today i got really sad, because i found out that he has a girlfriend already.but i cant take it anymore, should i tell him that i still like him or should i keep it to myself???
2006-10-03 16:36:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
add um how would this cause chaos?
2006-10-03 16:57:19 · update #1
greetings...keep in mind why you broke up in the first place. now when the school year ends are things going to change or will he be on another long vacation, putting you right back where you started. perhaps you were a bit hasty in your decision to part ways with him. and now that he's seeing some else doesn't help. i know personally that if a girl breaks up with me, regardless of the reason, I'm most likely not going to be very interested in getting back together. how long were you two together? if you truly love him, the best advice i can give is to leave him alone and let it play out. learn from your mistakes and move on. one other thing you can do, and be suttle about it, is the next time you get him alone, just tell him your really happy for him. and perhaps you made a mistake giving up on him, and wished things could have been different. and that you would like to still be friends. this way you've said your piece. this way you can move forward. dwelling on the past is not healthy. you've got your whole life ahead of you. you never know what the future holds. good luck
2006-10-03 17:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him for what...he's moved on already and you should do the same...your just going to cause chaos...i could understand you still having feelings for him..but you need to move on....telling him how you feel wont do much but stir up trouble, plus he'll think your only doing that because he found someone else....remember you broke up with him....he's out of your life now you miss him...thats how it usually goes sweety....take it as a learning experience next time be more careful about ending your relationship...take care.
2006-10-03 23:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should tell him, and I say this b/c you never know he might be thinking the same thing you are and just scared to say something.Always remember One Never Knows Until One Tells If you don't tell him then you never know you could be missing out on the best friend you never had or a husband even just tell him....
2006-10-03 23:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Quita B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could tell him but let me tell you this, its going to be a disaster, it was just the same with me, i ask or told my ex that i couldn't stop thinking about him and all he said was, it will never work out with both of us, if it went wrong last time, the same will happen again, and i don't wanna go through that again so sorry, and it crushed me, so no its not a good idea, you should just leave him be
2006-10-03 23:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by mateli6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay the closest of friends with him. If the love is there. NOTHING will keep you apart in the end. Be sweet, respectful & don't be too available for him. Guys definately want what they think they can't have. Please don't run after him. It will only be a turn off to him & push him away. I can't stress that enough.
2006-10-03 23:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by your best friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, if he has a girlfriend, by you telling him won't make any diferance as you broke up with him and he will only think that since he has someone else is why your now interested. your better to just be friends and go on with your life.
2006-10-03 23:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
y do u want 2 tell an "x" that has a gf and u do remember that u did break up for a reason, plus leave him alone obviously he is not concerned with u he has a GIRLFRIEND , dont b a homewrecker that is not cool.
2006-10-03 23:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him. if you do not tell him he moves on but you do not. the sooner you tell him the better so that he knows how you feel-i had to do that with my then ex and now bf. it actually made him realize that he misses me just as much. talk to the poor guy and make peace with him and yourself by actually telling him. then you will be better and able to move on with your life ....remember that you cannot make things happen, and that if some one loves you they will come back to you.
2006-10-03 23:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all u cant stop liking him and seeing him ur feeling are going 2 grow more just ****** tell him and maybe it will work again
2006-10-03 23:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by lonely and sad 7/20/05 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep it to yourself, stay friends with him and if his other relationship goes bad tell him
2006-10-03 23:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋