Before you answer, heres a brief background... During the first 8 months of our relationship, I always had to worry about her talking to her ex behind my back, cheating on me, talking to other girls behind my back...
Now we're perfect, we've gotten rid of all the bad in our relationship and tons of people around look up to us for being such a strong couple, for who we are, not only as individuals, but as a couple.
Within the last month or so, she came to me in tears, telling me that I was breaking her heart.. that I wasnt the same as I used to be. I dont know what's up, I dont honestly know how I have changed, but she can name off tons of ways, right off the top of her head. She said that she isnt as strong as me, and if I dont change back to the way I was before, that she cant stay with me... what do I do? I try to work on it, I honestly do, and I feel like if I lose her, my whole world will fall apart... how can I approach her, or fix things?
2006-10-03 16:35:38 · 4 answers · asked by llsoinlovell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When she name the changes in you, do you feel those things are true? Self introspection is essential, you need to think hard and be more sensitive to her needs. If you do change in some ways, changes will always happend, and it's ok to have changes as long as it's a good change. She need to understand that people change when they grow up. If she loves you and don't want to loose you, she got to adapt to the change. Talk to her, explain that you want to understand her and her needs. Maybe she feels like you're taking her for granted, not worrying about her anymore now that you feel you got a strong relationship. She might need to feel wanted more, or more affection from you.
2006-10-03 17:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Akai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have done some growing up and if she cant except that then you probably should leave the relationship and find someone who can except you for who you are. People do change and as long as it isnt for the bad then it is a good thing. Sounds like some immaturity to me.
2006-10-03 23:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your mind. You forgot who you are or don't see who you become - think about it. I hope you have some back memory
for sure you become worse. If you can find out who you are who can. Ask her where is the problem in first place if you don't understand.
2006-10-03 23:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
re establish trust,quit accusing-you are narrowing her world-accept each other at face value,go from there.GOODLUCK
2006-10-03 23:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋