I also have a 16-month old boy of me and my husband together, recently my step-daughter has been pooping on the floor. She was playing in it and smearing it on the walls, she has stopped that, but know she is pooping on the floor, and on the driveway outside, and the latest she stood in the middle of my 6 year old step sons bed and peed. She is the middle child and is very jealous of both her younger and older brother. I am so lost on what to do it drives me crazy. She is such a smart little girl, but I do not understand why she is doing this. She was born addicted to drugs and of course thats why my husband has full custody. I can't help but wonder if the drugs some how have affected her in ways that I am not aware of. Please let me know if anyone has any advice or has been through anything like this.
2006-10-03 16:23:26 · 7 answers · asked by DVS77357 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You certainly have your hands full, and if the 3 year old is as smart as you say she has picked up on that, since she is only 3 remember she is still young, very young. I will not go as far as to say that this is normal but it could be, these litttle people are fascinated by what "comes out of their body" and she may just be in that stage. of course calmly teach her this is not acceptable behavior, be patient with her, you could have these problems with your own child so I don't feel she is acting out in anger. Being born drug addicted she could be a little behind in devolopmental skills. I would try to get a child theripist to talk to about her development, and that would also help you know what to expect with all three children.Not many are blessed with three children in shuch a short time. Just keep asking questions,and love those babies a lot it will make all the difference.
2006-10-03 16:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by malraene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest talking to your child's doctor about her behaviors and look into a referral for her to talk with a therapist. She may be doing this for attention....you and your husband could each take her on a special outing (out for ice cream to park) once a week, while the other parent stays home to babysit.....also, sometimes the smearing of feces can be a sign of sexual abuse, so talk about if the bio mom and one of her boyfriends may have done something or if someone in her life now (older cousin, babysitter) might be touching her....try finding a preschool program for her or maybe a dance class....make sure she has something to do @ home when you have all the kids...get her set in an activity, then do what you have to do with the other kids
2006-10-03 16:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Erving Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like to me she need more attn from you and dad. Talk to her, she does however need some type of punishment for this because sounds like she knows what she is doing is wrong. You have to treat her as you would treat you own, would you put them in time out or something for it? If you would do it to her too. But make sure she is getting the same amount of attn the other too are. I have 4 and am starting this new thing where every weekend i take one of them out just me and them and it is working great. Just a suggestion.
2006-10-03 16:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 16 and my sis has two kids but all i really can say is take ur step-daughter to a doctor and get her checked out. If her mother was addicted to drugs when she was pregnant with your step daughter then there might be somethin really serious wrog with the little girl.
lacresha
2006-10-03 16:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Attention Factor.......attention is attention whether it is
negative or positive.... some type of positive reinforcement to
address these issues is needed.... obviously the child needs
help...so you need to seek guidance/professional help so that
you will know what path to take....
2006-10-03 16:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find out why.is something bothering her?maybe she needs more one on one time.but if i was you i would find a solution quick because if she is doing disturbing things now and they are overlooked she will just keep acting out to the point of no control
2006-10-03 16:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you and your husband need to get her into counseling and see a Dr about it.. she might have bigger problems.
2006-10-03 16:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋