Male's only question, what would you do?

Question

I mean no disrespect, by asking this question, so please don't get mad. If you met a woman and it was pretty serious, to the point where you thought about asking her to marry you and she brought it to your attention, that she could not bare your biological child, due to female problems, would you leave her, for this reason, even if you loved her? Thanks.

Answer 1

I sure wouldn't. If you really love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, what would it matter if you couldn't have kids? There are plenty of options out there right now including adoption and surogate mothers. No kids could be awesome. More money to have fun together and you would never have to sit there and say "only 3 more years until all of them are out of the house". That is just me though. Some people really want to have kids.

Answer 2

If it was me, I wouldn't. Even if she can't bare a child, there is always adoption or being a foster parent. Even though the child isn't biologically yours, you can still provide all the love and affection that child needs, which will help the child grow up and be successful in whatever he or she chooses.

If you really love this woman, would you really want to throw it away because of a problem she can't control? I believe if you answer this question, you will know what to do.

Answer 3

Not a chance; It just so happens that I recently discovered that my wife cannot have children. The last thing on my mind was leaving. If someone would leave under that circumstance then the women is very lucky to get rid of such a sorry human. I have been married twice before, trust me there are more important things than being able to have children

In our case in a few years we are going to adopt a Chinese girl. The way I see it; we get a child, the girl escapes a less than ideal circumstance and she avoids the pain of childbirth. Everybody wins.

Answer 4

Weelllll, my first question for that person would be, "why am I just now hearing this about you?" Is it because that person was afraid of being rejected if that info came to light earlier? I mean, that's something someone deserves to know at the earliest indication that things are getting serious. That's only fair.

Having said that, it depends on the person. If, for that person, having a biological child was a heartfelt desire, maybe that would cause someone to pause. Me personally, I'd like to think that if it were really the right person, that adoption would be an option.

Answer 5

short answer no I would not leave her. Being able to have a child could be a very good thing in many men's mind. there are men that want to have a child of thier own, so I would immagine some would leave, but there are so many ways of having a child (Serogate mother, invetro, adoption) I would think alot of guys would be fine with it.

Answer 6

Well if he truly loved you he wouldn't leave you. There are other ways of having children. (adoption) It would be perfect for me since I don't want any more kids, but I couldn't see myself leaving a woman that I loved just because she couldn't have kids for some reason beyond her control. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 7

Never. We all have faults, issues, baggage and/or problems. If I love her, I am staying with her. You can always adopt if you want kids so bad. If not, you both can travel, take classes together or hit the nightlife more (do all things people with kids wish they could do).

Answer 8

It depends, entirely on how important children are to you. In my case, the relationship completely outweighed any consideration of children, so I would have taken her anyway.