Ok, so here is the low down. I have been with my b/f 10 months and I brought the subject of marriage up, b/c he had said something about it, and I thought well let me ask to see whats up. We have talk extremely breifly about it b4. So I said that I believe if your with somebody and you love them, you just know, u know? I said: well say we have been together 2 yrs (a year and a half long distance and 6 months living together), then you should know by then if you wanna be with that person or not. And let me just say, I have already lived with him 3 -4 months over the summer. If its meant to be, its meant to be.right? He totally disagreed, he was saying well I was thinking more like being with someone 3 yrs! Now, for some people it great for them, but not for me, I made it clear form the beggining that if he drags me on for more then 2 yrs, i'm prob. gonna leave. I believe that he should know a little by now. So I was seeing what you all thought about this. My family agrees, do you guys?
2006-10-03 15:59:38 · 11 answers · asked by Rochelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me add, that I have asked him which way he is leaning toward with the whole subject. His answer was not any time soon, but he wouldn't be with me if he didn't have intentions of eventually marring me.
2006-10-03 16:00:58 · update #1
its hard for guys to come to terms with it. I know that is weird, but is simply is. My wife and I got married in Feb of 04 (short engagement) after being together since Sep of 01. Its different for all people, but after all that time, we both agree that it was best to wait that long. we went through a lot and learned a lot about one another those 3 years, and honestly, Im glad we did when we werent married because we were able to "test" our ability to really go through anything. best of luck.
2006-10-03 16:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't rush a guy honey. I've been with my boyfriend for four years now, I've been living with him for five months. I used to want to get married so badly but then I realized that it's just not the right time. Other things have to fall in place besides loving someone to get married. Finances is a big thing. Are you guys financially stable enough to get married? If you both know that you want to get married some day, then why rush things? You should ask him what has to happen before he'll be ready to get married. My boyfriend says that he wants us both to have our individual bills under control, some money saved up, and both have stable jobs before we get married. And that's totally understandable. Ask your boyfriend what he's waiting on and then go from there.
J
2006-10-03 23:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your family. You may not see things as clearly as they do but you will with a little time. They love you & don't want to see you get hurt. Trust your true feelings. Give it 3 mos. away from him & your life will be totaly different. For the better! Then you will see how silly it was to try & stay in a relationship that wasn't ever going anywhere. He may be using you. Have some respect for yourself & get out while you can.
2006-10-03 23:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by your best friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already has all the milk he could desire, why buy the cow?
I would be practical enough to know that it is time to move out.
Next time, let them ask, first. The clock is ticking on your life, babe.
This guy would drag you on, with his promises. He is irresponsible, and would make a poor husband, and a neglectful daddy.
2006-10-03 23:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not sure by now, it maybe too late. What is he waiting for? A better offer somewhere else? If he can not make up his mind then you will have to be the one and take the lead.
2006-10-03 23:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by fijisun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep...tell him you need some time with friends and you need to go out every now and again..then see how he reacts. if he doesn't show any sign of concern then i would probably leave.
2006-10-04 02:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and dump him now. he said that he would drag ya through those 3 years to find ur the one for him rite , well then he's not rite for ya. leave him now, find someone else who will marry you.
2006-10-03 23:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by triplet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave him, but bring him to that point where he realizes he CANT live without u...then watch the magic happen. GL
2006-10-03 23:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BF has already given you the answer.
2006-10-03 23:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
T O T A L L Y
2006-10-03 23:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by mateli6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋