see guys i have this friend or so called firned.. our ages are far apart.. i'm 25 and shes 60 and we have alot ofproblems .. i try to be her friend but i dont feel like i am one to her.. i work for her around her house and do whatever needs to be done.. but i dont fee like her friend cuz i feel like i'm here work hand.. i want ot talk to her and tell her how i feel but she is way too much older than me and she is way too opionated .. i feel like i can win with her at all cuz of her age or whatever.. so what should i do ???
2006-10-03 15:58:04 · 8 answers · asked by Shelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just try to be normal and be yourself.try not to feel rigid around her or else she would sense it,um,in 1 way or another.maybe u could ask her about her fav discussion topics and try to talk to her about it, making small talk at first.sooner or later you'll find u both getting along better, i'm sure. all the best! :)
stay happy::.
2006-10-03 16:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by wildfire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of "friend" are you looking for in this woman? If you are looking for a romantic friendship .........she is substantially older than you.......something you are fully aware of........but think of it this way.......at the age youre at right now............you would have to date someone thats not even going to born for 10 more years to fill the age gap you have with this woman. Right now you are her work hand.......and if you dont feel you can continue in a professional relationship you need to consider working somewhere else so as not to make things difficult for you or for her.
I once dated someone that was 10 years older than I was and she had a major problem with the age thing.........i was 40 she was 50.........not like we were kids...........but........i have to admit that at my age I probably wouldnt be interested in someone that was in their 20's...........to much of a generational gap.
But the best thing you can be for her and for yourself is her friend. Work on that b/c its the most important thing!
good luck
2006-10-03 23:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
greetings...is your relationship with this person business or pleasure. i mean what came first? did you begin working for her and then become acquainted or were you acquainted first? it matters because, if you began as her employee she may only view the relationship as such. at times she may confide in you about certain things and then turn around and be your boss again. this is frustrating, i know. in which case you may just have to be satisfied with her on a professional level. but, if you two were friends first then its totally within your means to sit down with this person and express how you feel. actually you could sit down with her and talk about it anyway. let her know how you feel and find out how she feels. at least by doing so you will know where you stand. if she gives you the brush off or shows know interest in your feelings, it just might be time to move on. good luck
2006-10-03 23:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should either work for her, or be her friend. I don't think you can do both. And if she's too opinionated for you to be able to have an open conversation with, maybe you don't want to work for her OR be her friend! There are lots of people out there that would love to be your friend without you having to work so hard to make it happen. Life is too short!
2006-10-03 23:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by vetgirl77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it dosen't matter about age. u should talk to her. if u keep to urself how can u be her friend? i thought friends were suppose to share opinions and thoughts? it might be true u help her out sometimes, dosen't mean ur her worker.
2006-10-03 23:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sketch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disappear and then just tell her something came up and you won't be able to come around too aften. Then just never come back but check up on her from time to time.
2006-10-03 23:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mycan Moneek 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope. This is not a friendly relationship. You are her handy man at that's all I can see of this relationship. Sorry.
2006-10-03 23:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by now if she is still acting lyk that then for get her b/c then she is goin to b thinking she go u on check ( wat i think!! )
2006-10-03 23:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋