This follows my previous question about cheating. My husband and i are long-distance because i was doing his immigration to come to my country. He has been obsessed with trying kinky sex for a whole year and it's the only thing he talks about. he is totally insane. A while ago he said he wants me to find a man and call him during the act !! it was a turn-on he said. Sick !! I think he's cheating and wants me to be the one to blame for infideity and then he'll leave me. Is this a common fantasy or is it a way to conveniently geta divorce so he can be free to play around ? BTW he won't be able to come here so that's a relief.
2006-10-03 15:39:09 · 22 answers · asked by kathy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Spend your legal dollars on a divorce, not immigration. He's a freak.
2006-10-03 15:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you get married? I would file for divorce. There are plenty of men where you live that would love to have a woman in their lonely lives. Sounds like you might be being used. Some men sabotage a relationship to take the easy way out by saying "she left." Let him. You are better off finding someone a little less perverted and more normal behaving. Only you can change the way things are in your life. Good luck.
2006-10-03 15:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by dizzyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor woman!! I wouldn't talk to him and get the divorce. He sounds sick, I don't know of any guy like that personally nor did I hear of any but than again who knows. Save yourself some trouble, and go with your instincts, I always find if you feel something is odd, chances are they are, you don't want to be in a relationship that makes you feel uncomfortable anyway. cheating or no cheating do whats good for you, there are plenty of fish in the sea, a lot are right here in the country.
2006-10-03 15:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me, it could be both. There aren't very many men that I know that want to have a threesome, where the third person is a man. As for an easy divorce, this might be his way of telling you that he wants one without actually telling you. Maybe he knows that you don't like that kind of thing.
On the other hand, since he has been talking about it for a year, maybe that is his fantasy. Hope this helps.
2006-10-03 15:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by n_burson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything's possible but there are some kinky people in the world. Chances are if you are having doubts about things there is something wrong. Long-distance relationships can wreak havoc. My advice is to have a heart-to-heart chat with him and talk about these issuses. Communication is the key in any relationship. You gotta let him know how you feel. Hopefully in turn he will reciprocate and tell you what his thoughts are and explain his actions. Good luck to you in whatever happens.
2006-10-03 15:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by bullet_with_buterfly_wings_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's already experiencing these things that he suggesting to u .....he just letting u know in a sneaky kind of way that he enjoys unusual things and it's a choice if you decide to do it . If u don't feel comfortable doing this don't.........if he's here with u and puts u in that situation what are u gonna do ......do it to satisfy him ....give him an inch he'll take a mile don't be that nieve tell him this makes u uncomfortable and if he can't accept it then that's your answer and he won't be able to come her........if he comes here and then u divorce him he'll be able to stay and most likely be a thorn in your side
2006-10-03 15:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldnt say that it means your husband is cheating but it definately sounds like he is sick OMG that is so gross. I wouldn't necessarily say that he is trying to entrap you in a divorce either although he could be using this as a way to say well I let you have sex with another man so why cant I have sex with another women.
2006-10-03 15:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how did you meet this man you married???? I would leave him where you found him. Stop trying to help him come here. Meet someone decent and deserving of a wife.
2006-10-03 16:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by seekinghisface1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the paperwork and get a divorce lawyer. You'll be happier.
2006-10-03 15:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He is trying to spice up your relationship. It does and it will make a differance. Try it and you will see what I am talking about. Don't think negative about it until you have tried it.
2006-10-03 15:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋