I have this friend that has add but she is a great person. Even though she is a little crazy sometimes I love her like a sister. The problem is that she says that she wants to kill herself and she keeps like choking herself and trying to kill herself. She hasn't done anything yet because I like yell at her everytime that I see her doing something but I am really worried. I've had many talks with her that I talked to her really nicely and calmly but they don't seem to work. I'm not sure what to say to her sometimes because I keep telling her that I care about her but she doesn't believe me because a lot of people hate her. Please give me advice! This is serious! How do I help her?
2006-10-03 15:24:33 · 6 answers · asked by bluechicken818 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds to me that your friend is very depressed which could be because alot of people hate her try to explain to her that the people who dont hate her like you for instance who really care for her are the only ones who matter and she should never want to kill herself explain to he everything she has to live for and how you , her parents , or maybe a little sibling or cousin or someone who looks up to her would feel if something were to happen to her and how it would effect other people than her...if all of this fail you really should tell someone ... i know it is what everyone says but it is true and if she is really stressed out about alot of things then she really needs to see a psychiatrist who may be able to provide her with some good medication or a psychologist who she could tell her problems to ...do what you thing is right and i hope you get your friend the right kind of help before something happens to her
2006-10-03 15:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by Helper..Hopefully 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I've been in this situation before, Your friend is seriously lacking in self-esteem / confidance. She needs to think about what exactly she hates - is it herself or is it her life style or does she have a bad habit that she hates herself for or could it be that she's angry at circumstances beyond her control ie: parents splitting up or boy trouble and she doesn't realise?
The best way is to find something to do together, try salsa dancing or jewellery making classes or art jamming or whatabout beauty lessons. If you want to help her, you have to help her get outside of herself, getting interested in something really cool and fun that she can be good at and get praised for will make her see that life is for living, it can be fun and you both may meet new people who know nothing of her past. It's nonsense that everyone can hate her, she hasn't met "everyone" yet! Laughter is also the best medicine, how about some comedy stand-ups.
One thing also, if she is young, you haven't said how old she is, you might want to talk to her family or a few friends close to her, tell them to give her a lil extra attention and care, make her see that she is loved and needed in their lives. I have resorted to all of the above in desperation but sometimes in the end, only a hard slap / dose of reality may work if all else fails. :)
2006-10-03 22:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by laveranda1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consider having a third party talk to your friend. A counselor or a therapist. Go with her. Tell her the appointment is for you and you need her support. That way you can discuss how this situation is making you feel and important she is too you. Someone who doesn't know her can be understanding and support of what she is going through. You are a good friend to attempt to try to help her. There is a really good book called the Six Pillars of Self Esteem. It sounds like to me that she has a poor self image. That's probably the root of her anger. Don't give up! Good Luck to you and your friend.
2006-10-03 22:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by msladykm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a counselor. yeah, it sounds very serious!! tell her not to let anyone lower her self-esteem. hit her really hard if u see her do that. if i was her, i'd rather take the pain from a hard hit then take the pain from dyin or killing myself.
2006-10-03 22:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by HappyState™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does she wanna kill herself? have a heart to heart. she'll probably cry.it helps alot though!
2006-10-03 22:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by ~Pom!~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can think of is to suggest she seek counselling. tell her that you care about her and that you would be devastated if you lost her
2006-10-03 22:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋