2006-10-03 15:23:17 · 19 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
If you do not love yourself and treat yourself with disrespect then chances are you will disrespect others.
2006-10-03 15:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Brian D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question roots back to, "How can you love others, if you can't love yourself?" It's called inner peace. In a busy society like we have today, it's hard finding inner peace.
This leads to people being depressed, taking pills, seeing a counselor/psychologist/psychiatrist and end up a psychiatric ward.
People say it's easy to love yourself, but realistically it's not very easy. It takes time and much effort to actually admit the fact that you love yourself and everything about you is okay. We ourselves are the worse critics.
Plus, when you do sincerley love yourself, your able to find inner peace and you can get along with close friends, family and strangers a lot easily without feeling self-conscious, angry or shy.
2006-10-03 16:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by azn_cutey1004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be hapy for what you have, who you are, how you are all that stuff.
Because if you can't even find the good qualities in yourself, how are you supposed to find them in other people? If you just love others then it can turn into either obsession or dependancy... no matter which way it swings it's not fair to them, which makes you selfish... When you're selfish it becomes about you and you disreguard their feelings, so really it comes back around to you and not being love at all... so like yourself and then like other people, and then do both!
2006-10-03 15:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by SCSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving oneself is equivalent to being good to yourself in all ways possible. So, if you are good to yourself, you will allow in someone else who will also be good to you. You will not be entering a relationship out of a place of need or validation: doing that would likely lead to an unsatisfying relationship and you will likely enter relationships trying to get something rather than being in a place to give from a fulfilled and loving heart. All the best to you.
2006-10-03 17:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by j14456um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if you can't even find the good qualities in yourself, how are you supposed to find them in other people? If you just love others then it can turn into either obsession or dependancy... no matter which way it swings it's not fair to them, which makes you selfish... When you're selfish it becomes about you and you disreguard their feelings, so really it comes back around to you and not being love at all...
2006-10-03 15:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by catattack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not love yourself, it is because you believe that you are not fully loveable. You would then be unable to accept as valid the love others may have for you. In this emotional void, you will not seek love, but only proof and evidence that you ARE loveable. Thus, need is mistaken for love. This is oxymoronic, because where there is love, there is no need. (The more perfect the love, the less need....it's a continuum and I don't want to get too metaphysical).
To look at it another way...if I love myself I am happy, and others add to my happiness, as I add to theirs. Another cannot be the source of that happiness; but, they can enlarge and glorify the happiness I already possess.
More specifically of the vernacular...You can't give away what you don't have!!
Now...how to love oneself...?!
2006-10-03 15:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Foolhardysage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always had a love for others, but there was a time I neglected my own wishes and dreams because for others.
When I learned to love myself it stopped others walking all over me. It gave me strength because they knew I'd forgive, they knew I'd still be there for them and that gave them permission to treat me like dirt.
When I stood up for myself by learning that I deserved better, I learned a lot about others too.
If we love another, then why should we love ourselves any less? We should respect ourselves as we do others, and want for ourselves as we want for others, there can't be an equal balance without it.
2006-10-03 22:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by WW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because of the fact in case you do unlike your self first, a large form of the affection you deliver out will in basic terms be unconscious tries to get others to teach which you're certainly "lovable." once you already love your self there is not any want for consistent reassurance which you're a solid guy or woman or a lovable guy or woman. this facilitates you to grant love from a secure place and get carry of love with out it being something that in basic terms in basic terms props up a floundering self-ego.
2016-12-26 08:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't love yourself you won't be able to love others because you have to have self worth to feel worthy to love others and receive love back. Its sort of like when someone gives you a gift, if you don't feel like you deserve it, you don't know how to accept it.
2006-10-03 15:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by sibelover 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's like learning how to walk before you crawl. You can love, but you won't love as well as you could if you learned to love yourself first.
2006-10-03 15:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋