He is not only destorying our relationship he is killing himself a little bit, day by day. He is so bad he will usually have his first drink about 10 or 15 min. after he first gets up. he has started so early that in one days time he has been drunk and passed out 3 or more times. All his life everyone has given up on him. I do not want to give up on him he is a really great guy when he isn't drunk. He is on a self destruct course and I do not know how to stop him. His brother tells me that my bf is acting just like his mom. He is such a drama king, constantly hurting himself and I don't know how to help him. PLEASE HELP ME HELP HIM.
2006-10-03 15:17:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Drink Too Much?:
http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/DrinkTooMuch.html
What Works?:
http://www.behaviortherapy.com/whatworks.htm
2006-10-06 20:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by raysny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Web sites are not the answer to your problem. Until your botfriend comes to grips with the fact that he is an alcoholic, all the websites in the world cannot help him; Neither can you, although I applaud your willingness to want to try. He is a very lucky individual, but probably doesn't even realize he has an orchid, not a rose who really cares for him. The best thing you can do is to wait until he is sober, sit him down and explain to him how much you care for him, but you can't and won't put up with the drunkeness. Believe me, it will only tear you down to try and live as things are, knowing that his love is alcohol and your love is truly him. It is not impossible for him to overcome his drinking, but the odds are that the rest of his life he will spend fighting to control his urges, or succumb to them.
2006-10-03 22:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by rexallen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him. He has to want to help himself. He needs to seek counseling to get to the root of what's causing him to drink. He may saying there are no underlined issues such as childhood and so forth, but if it's not in his genes (which it can be) then it is an underlined issue that he is masking with the alcohol. Until he deals with those underlined issues things are never going to change. Good luck, and I am sorry you are going through this.
2006-10-03 22:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he admits he has a problem no one can help him. He will have to decide for himself.
I have been dry since October 1970. Notice I said "dry" not "sober". I never attended a meeting. I just quit, had a friend who held my head, cleaned up my vomit and helped me kill the spiders but there was no steps, no meetings just the realization I was killing myself.
Good luck, you will need it if you stay with him. I am sorry to be so negative but I have walked where he walks and though what he thinks. He will either wake up or die with a drink in his hand.
2006-10-03 22:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Buttercup, the thing is, you can beg and plead for him to get help, but until he is ready to get help, he doesnt think he needs it, Until he hits the bottom and all he can do is look up that will be about the time he might start thinking of getting help
2006-10-03 22:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but he needs to seek help by himself.
Did he admit he is an alcoolic?
Even if you drag him to a councellor, it will unfortunately not do any good to him as he probably does not even know he has a problem.
Good luck.
2006-10-03 22:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buttercup he has to want to help himself,you cant do it for him,sorry!
2006-10-03 22:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋