okay well my brother told me he waz gay and then i waz like "okay, and ur point iz..."And i waz really the only one that excepted it and didn't really care...but the rest of my family(except my mom) iz threating to dis own him....and now he cries alot and i am the only one there for him...telling him its okay and nothin will go wrong...but i wanna kno iz there a way for me to convice my family that he iz the same and how can i convice him that it's the same....?
2006-10-03 15:13:34 · 8 answers · asked by Jazzi_Pha 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
and by the way my brother is 17 and i am 14..so were have and always wil be really close(hopefully)
2006-10-04 11:15:03 · update #1
Its not the same though.
In your familys eyes he is not normal anymore.
Tell him at least you and your mom still love him.
2006-10-03 15:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by novagirl117 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is he? And how long ago did he come out? Usually things like this work themselves out in about a week or so. You could try to educate your family on the subject of homosexuality. Many people who are straight just assume that being gay is a choice because they never had to choose their sexuality (just like a gay person doesn't choose) Your brother is no different than he was before, only thing is now you know something about him that you didn't know before. Sounds like your family needs to start acting like family. That's what your family is for, to stick by your side when the going gets tough, to be there for you through thick and thin. I'm sure everyone will calm down, but my best suggestion is to do some research, even find a book and give it to them. People tend to deem books as authoritative, so find a useful one.
2006-10-03 15:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a tough question and it breaks my heart that a family can through away another member of the family just because they are different. Good for you sister for understanding the true meaning of love { unconditional }. Cease trying to convince your family into accepting your brother or changing their minds.It will get you nowhere. But if you live by your intuition and love your actions will be a Revelation As a result your family will see that your brother is still who he was before he told them that he was gay. You are the light of this family in darkness, Shine your light so that they can see their way through. Blessed Be
2006-10-03 15:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get your family some literature to read up upon children coming out to their parents. Maybe you could be the one to host a family meeting for the discussion(without your brother). Perhaps by them being more educated on the subject the more comfortable they will become. Good Luck
2006-10-03 15:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by twix 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give him your love and tell him life is not easy , but let him know you and your mom still loves him.
I have no idea what age your brother is but I am assuming he is a teen. Make sure you have his back cuz right now he is very unstabble. talk to him everyday about his day ...then get him into therapy.
2006-10-04 10:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by ♦GAY INDIAN♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a good sister.
Since your mom's not threatening, you should probably talk with her about this. Y'all probably can't convince them to accept his being gay, but the two of you working together can probably convince them to accept *him* and shut up, if that makes sense. Just say it--he's still the same.
2006-10-03 15:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Get some penny rolls put them in a sock and wait until your brother goes to sleep. Then surprise him and beat the gayness out of him with that sock.
2006-10-03 17:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by midwestbruin 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't want to be rude, but shouldn't you be writing in English in this section?
2006-10-03 15:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋