why do peolpe get married if they are only gonna end up divorced?

Question

Do you think people get married, just so they wont be alone?If so do you think that this contributes to the overall decay in our everyday values?Why get married if your not in love?IS it for the thrill or the simple fact you can say you were married?

Answer 1

Here's some reasons:

Public celebration of a couple's love

Tax reasons (one person can claim the other's deductions for example)

Legal reasons (a whole host of legal issues depend on being married: for example married people can't testify against each other, get to make life and death decisions, become next of kin, etc)

Family reasons--a lot of times its important to the family--mom, dad, grandparents etc

And of course, Gifts

I think fear of growing old alone is a factor also

Answer 2

Everyone THINKS their marriage will last forever. Which is why I think when people tell you "you'll just know" when you've found the right person - it is bullshi*. Everyone, EVERYONE thinks "I just knew" he/she was THE ONE. But half of those people still end up getting a divorce. So obviously they didn't know, did they?! So how do you know whether you really know, or you just fake know? I have no f'ing idea. I think you just have to be smart about it when you get married. In my opinion a lot of marriages end in divorce because very young women THINK they are ready to be married because society encourages women to be ready at a young age. Then it turns out they weren't ready. The other half of the problem is that way too many guys who are in their late 20's early 30's, are marrying these really young girls (21, 22 etc) because the girls are so pretty. The men don't think to look at the girls habbits - does she work out, does she have the discipline to eat right and work hard to keep herself in shape? Then whoops - it turns out that she's a lazy little thing, who turns into a lazy BIG thing, and the guy is no longer hypnotized by her beauty.

Answer 3

there are as many different reason to get married as there are people getting married. Many do not even know their actual reason until they have been married for years. Divorce is the same way as far as reasons go. Many remarry the same person a second time. What I am saying is nody really knows the answer to your question. Some will say they do but ask them in 10 years and they will say they did not. After doing maaiage counseling for years I can only say that it is a complicated issue and people who do it have not got the faintest idea the ride they are in for.

Answer 4

When I got married I was mad crazy in love with my husband. He was stable, grounded, we shared values, and both wanted a big family. We had goals and many dreams we wanted to accomplish together.

I went into the marriage thinking this was a lifetime commitment.

Marriage is about giving and lots of hard work. Everything that is worth while is.

Unfortunately after 30 years of marriage we are now divorced.
I have no regrets, I have many happy memories and 3 lovely daughters.

Did I want my marriage to fail? No. I didn't go into the marriage with the thought this was a trial but that is was a lifetime commitment.

Answer 5

No, I don't. I think far too many people are having children out of wedlock and not giving it any thought, girls are getting pregnant far too young, and some don't even know who the father is. I find that much more disturbing. I don't believe in getting married when you don't love the person, but for the ones out there that do and fail, hey, at least they tried. And this comes from someone whose parents divorced when she was 10.

Answer 6

Sometimes they just don't buy into the idea of sharing their partner with others, sometimes what goes on behind closed doors is a lot different than what other people see in public, sometimes people can't cope with parenting & they run away from the responsibility, sometimes people develop severe illnesses that change thier personality, sometimes people become drug users, sometimes you just have to say I've had enough, all the time I'd like to say that none of the aforementioned life circumstances could happen to people entering into a marriage.

Answer 7

In my opinion, (like butt's..everyone has one and some of them stink), people do not get married to say they did it. The divorce rate has to do with the moral fabric of society today. For example, in the 60's and prior to that generation of people, it did not happen frequently. Most stayed married and made it work. Divorce was relatively unheard of. Society has made it too easy to get out of a marriage today. Liberal points of view, media, and again, the decay of morality in society makes this acceptable today.

Answer 8

Most women get married for security. Which American men love, 'cause it means they can act and treat his wife anyway he wants to, even if he is a mean heartless, cold freak. Very few people marry for love these days, and many don't know what it means anyway. If you'd rather kill him than look at him one more day...thats the best reason to get a divorce. Nobody is worth prison, even if u have to live under a bridge.

Answer 9

Maybe in some cases you are right. I think most people are really in love & think/hope it will work. In a lot of cases it does. Some people really do find their soulmates. I know lots of couples who are celebrating their 50th. anniversary. I know young couples who so far have made it past their 5 yr. mark & are still madly in love with one another. A good marriage takes a lot of work. There is a lot of give & take on both sides. I really think the main thing is mutual respect as well as love.

Answer 10

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