I am having a terrible time motivating my child to do her homework. She is very bright and quite stubborn. Reasoning, bribes and punishments have not been effective. I am at my wits' end!
2006-10-03 14:25:58 · 15 answers · asked by CH 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Try getting her a tutor she may be feeling overwhelmed with her homework. I had a terrible time when I was about that age. My Mom would bribe me, punish me and even beg me but, I was just so overwhelmed with not only the amount of homework I was getting but, with the material in general. My tutor helped motivate me and get me through the rough period. If you do not know where to start trying talking to her guidance counselor. The guidance counselor may be able to help shed some light on the situation and give you some other idea about what you could do.
I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-03 15:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by mardaw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Total Isolation! Take it all way. NO anything, at anytime and put her at the living room table with YOU and do homework.
Remove all electronics of every kind from her room- even a radio alarm clock goes! No Ipod, no anything.
We literally removed the TV from our lives- Sun-Thurs.
No more punishing- change the whole family to motivate a change. I'm sure there is something you can do at that dinner table for an hour with her sitting there. All kids at the table for homework, not just her.
This could be a learning disability that is the problem and don't be upset by this statement. The best way to teach a child is to let the child teach YOU or someone else.
Best wishes and Good luck!
2006-10-03 14:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I wish my mother were here so I show her that she isn't the only mother who had problems motivating her kid to do homework... anyways, what would have helped for me would be asking why. Understanding is something most kids want from their parents, and understanding a problem is the first step to solving it. A lot of bright kids just aren't interested in the material. Make a kid interested in what they're doing and they'll do it gladly - bribes won't make a kid put in a fullhearted effort. Maybe she wants to do something different - try to talk to her teachers about special curriculum for her. My teachers were very nice and understanding... the most important thing is to try to be understanding or else she will just get more and more turned off to the idea of work habits. hope I helped, good luck with your daughter -
2006-10-03 15:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by skylark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had a problem similar to this with one of our foster kids. She just did not want to do it. I put my foot down, and took everything away except the necessities. And I mean everything. She was not allowed phone calls, or to go anywhere. Finally after 2 weeks of this she gave in. However we did not return everything all at once, she earned one item per week back knowing that she could lose that item just as quickly as she earned it back. I would however let her know that you are concerned and you feel maybe she is having a difficulty with learning or reading or something. Let her know that you plan to have a meeting at the school to discuss having her tested. If she is having a problem, she will accept this, not with a smile, but she will. If she is not having a problem, she will be pretty mad, and possibly worry about the embarassment. She may reconsider doing the little bit of homework she has to do. Honestly, this is kind of normal for this age, not every child mind you, but quite a few. They are going through that transition period, and checking boundaries. LOL...good luck, and just wait until the teenage testing boundaries.
2006-10-03 14:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm haing the same trouble with my 12 yr-old... She can do the work and is very smart, she just chooses not to. The only thing I've found so far that works is rewards or not getting something she really wants. Other than that, there is nothing you can do to force a child to do anything- they have to WANT to do it. Remind her she is facing ridicule from her classmates when she fails and has to repeat the school year. This will usually motivate them more than anything else. Also keep close communication wit her teachers. My daughter likes to hide things from me, so when her teacher and I send communication sheets back and forth every day, it makes the hiding difficult.
Good luck!
2006-10-03 14:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how much homework she has, And if she is smart she will soon find that her grades will slip and that should be enough punishment in itself for her to realise that she needs to do homework. Even just to refresh the day. If she has alot of homework than ma-by asking her to do it 3 times per week and gradually going up to 5 also at the age of 13 I would be taking special things away from her until she learns that in order to have it you need to corporate with the homework. GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-03 14:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they don't work then it might have to come from the school (meaning punishment, bribe) something like that. also you may want to figure out why she is not doing her homework. is it too hard? to easy? is things happening at school? like are children teasing her about something? or is she hanging around a crowd that don't seem to do well in school therefore she may be acting like this to look good to them? i think that sometimes there is more to it then meets the eye and you should investigate further!
good luck!
2006-10-03 14:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Julie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have tried this, but attempt to do the homework with your child. They may not want to do it with you at first, but if you make it fun they may look forward to doing it with you. Otherwise, if they refuse to do it with you, see if there are any volunteers at the local high school who will tutor, or help your child with their homework. Sometimes a teenager can have the magic touch when dealing with an adolescent. Good luck!
2006-10-03 14:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by dillpickles222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup! Good Ol' Fashion Bribe!
With a diploma..Each kid gets a Car of their choice under a certain set price.
All three of mine are straight A Students and the oldest is already working on college credits and a scholorship.
2006-10-03 14:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 teen agers in my house, 3 girls and 1 boy, At the begininng it was difficult to get them to do their homeworks, but once I started taking away their stuff like, cell phones, computer, radio, t.v's, etc........they noticed I was npt playing games with them. It topok a little of time for them , but right now I don't have to worry about "homeworks", They do it no problem...
2006-10-03 15:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by goddes0524 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋